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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That sounds like a scene from a screwball comedy.

Whatever your big news is, if its truly big, why would something like that de-rail the topic permanently for the evening?

It does sound very awkward. I can understand your feelings could be hurt if this is a very good friend and she knew what you were about to say, and then did this to screw up the moment for you. But why would she do that? Do you think it was an on purpose? Was there general conversation going on that maybe she didnt hear you about to deliver the news? Is she someone prone to awkward blurting like this?

We are too much context on her ways  know them and your perception of her intentions to be able to say what we would do or what you should do. [/quote]

OP here. we were in a quiet, fancy restaurant. We are not chugging beer and telling Hooters jokes. We are over 30. Yes, sadly she knew what the news was and did not want to hear yet another friend having great good fortune. When she told me the other friend, I thought it was just small talk. She knew her friend was very ummm lucky, why the anger? So she did it on purpose --that is why my feelings were hurt. She heard me all too well. 
What I missed was that she had had much more to drink than I noticed at the time (in retrospect, I now realize that she was plastered. She has a bit of a drinking problem. She started singing. Friends don't usually burst into toddler songs when we eat out together. Now I remember that she has done this before when she has had too much. It was very early to be quite at that state.) I can image when she told me her mother was ill... if I had jumped right into the Barney's song...I would have thought that was rude of me.
The whole thing took me by surprise. I know it would have been much smoother to say, OK Larla, You're feeling very merry. Partly it was just a misunderstanding. She is a big drinker. What did I expect? I did not understand the extent of her perception that falling down drunk is OK , and all the things that go with it. I do not want to think this about my friend.
I have to rethink this with her, my tolerance ,ect. Obviously this has been building up. Vent![/quote]

OP I just read the replies to this post, your post above.

Here is what I think.  First, alcohol is like money…it just makes a person *more* of what they already are.  It's just an amplifier.  So take that in.
Even if you don't agree with that…my main point is this:

You never know who your true friends are until something good happens to you, or something bad happens to you. When something good happens, who is ready to celebrate and shout it from the rooftops, who is sulking or jealous, and who is suddenly your new best friend?  Likewise, when something bad happens to you, who is at your side to support you, who is quietly enjoying your discomfort, and who has suddenly disappeared from your life?

These are the times that distinguish the true friends from the competitors, hangers-on, and other fair-weather friends.

Unless it truly was a situation where, say, you were going to announce your pregnancy and she knew the other couple had just suffered a miscarriage, then it sounds like your good friend may not be such a great friend after all.[/quote]

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