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Think you're missing the point. In the stereotypical Indian families, "solid enough" is not good enough, and they do believe that the last 2% makes or breaks you. That last 2% is what keeps you from getting into an ivy/MIT/Caltech/wherever. That last 2% is what keeps you from being promoted at work; while a Caucasian person will get promoted at 100%, some Indian parents believe that their Indian kids will only be promoted if they are 102%. Same with college admissions -- esp with the over-representation of Asians at top colleges -- [b]you won't get in if you aren't better than the majority applicants in a statistically significant way[/b].

I think you have to grow up in this fear to truly understand it. Believe me I am living it right now, when my white friends are looking at me like I'm crazy for being SO worried about my job prospects given my degrees and experience.[/quote]

Exactly. Comes back to my assertion that you do not have to be better than whites, you have to be exponentially better than whites.

Here is something I have seen and observed that needs to change within the Indian community. We need to have our own version of the "Old Boys" network, because we are now gaining a foothold in many industries. The isolation and the tendency to become an "island" needs to end. Help other Indians traverse the same path of success that you have traveled.  [/quote]

I'm the PP. So true. There are Indians in all kinds of fields now -- not just engineering and medicine, but law, banking, economists, high end positions in the gov't etc. Not sure of your experience, but I don't see Indians as willing to network and mentor other Indians, as you seen amongst whites. Sure some of the younger ones -- ages 20s-30s will because that's what they see amongst their white and Indian peers, but those who are in positions of power in their 50s and 60s just don't care to do it. Not sure what it is -- either it's a "I made it by myself so why should I help" attitude, or "I'll use my influence only for my own kids/family" or "you're not the same caste, religion, background as me." I don't think they get that whatever you do for someone from a networking perspective tends to get paid back to you down the road somewhere.[/quote]

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