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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I guess I'm one of the few people on here that thinks having sex with someone else aside from your spouse -- under whatever "benign" circumstances we can come up with, is cheating.  Forgive it and move on.  What? Until the next time?  How bad is this guy's judgement that he goes to Vegas and has sex with a prostitute?  The taxi driver convinced him?  This is scary stupid if it all went down this way.  How does OP prevent him from getting wasted ever again?

Sorry you are in this situation, OP.  I'd definitely suggest counseling for yourself (to figure out what you want to do for you and your kids)...and also together to discuss your H's lack of judgment when it mattered.  I would be very hurt by this personally.[/quote

I'm one of the people who said "Let it go."  I didn't say it wasn't cheating. It is cheating. He messed up. He messed up big time.

On the other hand, I don't think it's a good idea to trash a marriage (especially a marriage with kids) because a guy had sex with a prostitute one time. If it becomes a pattern, it's a problem. However, both partners and the kids will be in emotional agony over a divorce. He's an idiot who got drunk and screwed up. Don't wreck everyone's lives because of it. It doesn't make anything better.

If you feel too betrayed, get a counselor. Don't just walk. Monogamy is hard. Sometimes people screw it up.

I wouldn't take a guy's lack of judgment under those circumstances too personally. He was drunk and he was in Vegas.  That wasn't about anything other than poor impulse control.  No more Vegas trips for him. [/quote]

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