Anonymous
Post 09/20/2013 17:29     Subject: Bad actions in Vegas
Stay with your DH. Forgive him his mistake. Go for therapy. May sure he is free of STDs and STIs.

Anonymous
Post 09/20/2013 13:22     Subject: Bad actions in Vegas
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I guess I'm one of the few people on here that thinks having sex with someone else aside from your spouse -- under whatever "benign" circumstances we can come up with, is cheating. Forgive it and move on. What? Until the next time? How bad is this guy's judgement that he goes to Vegas and has sex with a prostitute? The taxi driver convinced him? This is scary stupid if it all went down this way. How does OP prevent him from getting wasted ever again?

Sorry you are in this situation, OP. I'd definitely suggest counseling for yourself (to figure out what you want to do for you and your kids)...and also together to discuss your H's lack of judgment when it mattered. I would be very hurt by this personally.[/quote

I'm one of the people who said "Let it go." I didn't say it wasn't cheating. It is cheating. He messed up. He messed up big time.

On the other hand, I don't think it's a good idea to trash a marriage (especially a marriage with kids) because a guy had sex with a prostitute one time. If it becomes a pattern, it's a problem. However, both partners and the kids will be in emotional agony over a divorce. He's an idiot who got drunk and screwed up. Don't wreck everyone's lives because of it. It doesn't make anything better.

If you feel too betrayed, get a counselor. Don't just walk. Monogamy is hard. Sometimes people screw it up.

I wouldn't take a guy's lack of judgment under those circumstances too personally. He was drunk and he was in Vegas. That wasn't about anything other than poor impulse control. No more Vegas trips for him.


Being in Vegas is an excuse? Lol, some of the women on here have been trained well, I see.


People who have poor impulse control can behave perfectly well if they stay out of situations which tempt them. It's a bit like being an alcoholic. If you are going to be tempted to drink, stay out of the bar. Some guys are weak and have poor impulse control.

Anonymous
Post 09/18/2013 21:48     Subject: Bad actions in Vegas
Anonymous wrote:Oppsies, more like bull shitsies


Anonymous
Post 09/18/2013 20:45     Subject: Bad actions in Vegas
How are you liking your alpha male now?
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2013 20:38     Subject: Bad actions in Vegas
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I guess I'm one of the few people on here that thinks having sex with someone else aside from your spouse -- under whatever "benign" circumstances we can come up with, is cheating. Forgive it and move on. What? Until the next time? How bad is this guy's judgement that he goes to Vegas and has sex with a prostitute? The taxi driver convinced him? This is scary stupid if it all went down this way. How does OP prevent him from getting wasted ever again?

Sorry you are in this situation, OP. I'd definitely suggest counseling for yourself (to figure out what you want to do for you and your kids)...and also together to discuss your H's lack of judgment when it mattered. I would be very hurt by this personally.[/quote

I'm one of the people who said "Let it go." I didn't say it wasn't cheating. It is cheating. He messed up. He messed up big time.

On the other hand, I don't think it's a good idea to trash a marriage (especially a marriage with kids) because a guy had sex with a prostitute one time. If it becomes a pattern, it's a problem. However, both partners and the kids will be in emotional agony over a divorce. He's an idiot who got drunk and screwed up. Don't wreck everyone's lives because of it. It doesn't make anything better.

If you feel too betrayed, get a counselor. Don't just walk. Monogamy is hard. Sometimes people screw it up.

I wouldn't take a guy's lack of judgment under those circumstances too personally. He was drunk and he was in Vegas. That wasn't about anything other than poor impulse control. No more Vegas trips for him.


Being in Vegas is an excuse? Lol, some of the women on here have been trained well, I see.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2013 20:11     Subject: Bad actions in Vegas
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is the most benign sort of cheating a man can do. Sleazy, but there's no threat to your relationship. He fessed up and is really sorry. It was one time. He wore a condom. Get past it.

Feminism has created a delusion that male cheating is like female cheating. Male cheating is not really a big deal because it doesn't need to affect the relationship; it's usually just for sex. Men's job is to provide for the family. If he's doing that, a little sex on the side is no big deal. It doesn't affect his love for wife and kids.

Female cheating, on the other hand, is the ultimate betrayal. First, there the risk of paternity fraud. And women are the gatekeepers of morality. The woman teaching your kids right from wrong can't be sleeping around and literally letting other men inside of her. That's nasty and a testament to her character.


This would be hilarious if written in jest; however, I think you're serious so it's just very sad. Read what you've written and see how ridiculous it is.


I read it again, and it's even more true the second time. And any man with testes (and any woman if she's truly honest with herself) agrees. A man's job is not to be chaste, it's to protect and provide for his family. A woman's job is to raise and nurture the children, and part of that position is the task of upholding the moral standards. If anything, a man who cheats is a more desirable man, because other women want him.


Protect from what?
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2013 20:00     Subject: Bad actions in Vegas
Anonymous wrote:I guess I'm one of the few people on here that thinks having sex with someone else aside from your spouse -- under whatever "benign" circumstances we can come up with, is cheating. Forgive it and move on. What? Until the next time? How bad is this guy's judgement that he goes to Vegas and has sex with a prostitute? The taxi driver convinced him? This is scary stupid if it all went down this way. How does OP prevent him from getting wasted ever again?

Sorry you are in this situation, OP. I'd definitely suggest counseling for yourself (to figure out what you want to do for you and your kids)...and also together to discuss your H's lack of judgment when it mattered. I would be very hurt by this personally.[/quote

I'm one of the people who said "Let it go." I didn't say it wasn't cheating. It is cheating. He messed up. He messed up big time.

On the other hand, I don't think it's a good idea to trash a marriage (especially a marriage with kids) because a guy had sex with a prostitute one time. If it becomes a pattern, it's a problem. However, both partners and the kids will be in emotional agony over a divorce. He's an idiot who got drunk and screwed up. Don't wreck everyone's lives because of it. It doesn't make anything better.

If you feel too betrayed, get a counselor. Don't just walk. Monogamy is hard. Sometimes people screw it up.

I wouldn't take a guy's lack of judgment under those circumstances too personally. He was drunk and he was in Vegas. That wasn't about anything other than poor impulse control. No more Vegas trips for him.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2013 18:32     Subject: Bad actions in Vegas
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I guess I'm one of the few people on here that thinks having sex with someone else aside from your spouse -- under whatever "benign" circumstances we can come up with, is cheating. Forgive it and move on. What? Until the next time? How bad is this guy's judgement that he goes to Vegas and has sex with a prostitute? The taxi driver convinced him? This is scary stupid if it all went down this way. How does OP prevent him from getting wasted ever again?

Sorry you are in this situation, OP. I'd definitely suggest counseling for yourself (to figure out what you want to do for you and your kids)...and also together to discuss your H's lack of judgment when it mattered. I would be very hurt by this personally.


This. I'm with ya.


Feel the same. I wouldn't be able to forgive my husband for putting his dick in another woman. Uh, drunk or not, Vegas or not, there is no fucking excuse. Gross.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2013 16:05     Subject: Re:Bad actions in Vegas
It all boils down to this one thing:

You already have one asshole...

Do you really need another one??
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2013 14:10     Subject: Bad actions in Vegas
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is the most benign sort of cheating a man can do. Sleazy, but there's no threat to your relationship. He fessed up and is really sorry. It was one time. He wore a condom. Get past it.

Feminism has created a delusion that male cheating is like female cheating. Male cheating is not really a big deal because it doesn't need to affect the relationship; it's usually just for sex. Men's job is to provide for the family. If he's doing that, a little sex on the side is no big deal. It doesn't affect his love for wife and kids.

Female cheating, on the other hand, is the ultimate betrayal. First, there the risk of paternity fraud. And women are the gatekeepers of morality. The woman teaching your kids right from wrong can't be sleeping around and literally letting other men inside of her. That's nasty and a testament to her character.


This would be hilarious if written in jest; however, I think you're serious so it's just very sad. Read what you've written and see how ridiculous it is.


I read it again, and it's even more true the second time. And any man with testes (and any woman if she's truly honest with herself) agrees. A man's job is not to be chaste, it's to protect and provide for his family. A woman's job is to raise and nurture the children, and part of that position is the task of upholding the moral standards. If anything, a man who cheats is a more desirable man, because other women want him.

A hooker will want anyone with a $20 bill, dumbass.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2013 14:08     Subject: Bad actions in Vegas
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is the most benign sort of cheating a man can do. Sleazy, but there's no threat to your relationship. He fessed up and is really sorry. It was one time. He wore a condom. Get past it.

Feminism has created a delusion that male cheating is like female cheating. Male cheating is not really a big deal because it doesn't need to affect the relationship; it's usually just for sex. Men's job is to provide for the family. If he's doing that, a little sex on the side is no big deal. It doesn't affect his love for wife and kids.

Female cheating, on the other hand, is the ultimate betrayal. First, there the risk of paternity fraud. And women are the gatekeepers of morality. The woman teaching your kids right from wrong can't be sleeping around and literally letting other men inside of her. That's nasty and a testament to her character.


This would be hilarious if written in jest; however, I think you're serious so it's just very sad. Read what you've written and see how ridiculous it is.


I read it again, and it's even more true the second time. And any man with testes (and any woman if she's truly honest with herself) agrees. A man's job is not to be chaste, it's to protect and provide for his family. A woman's job is to raise and nurture the children, and part of that position is the task of upholding the moral standards. If anything, a man who cheats is a more desirable man, because other women want him.


1. Who is protecting and providing for your family while you're fucking other women?

2. While you're spending money on your other women, you're not providing for your family the best you can.

3. When your infidelities come out and bring shame to your family, you're not protecting them.

4. It's challenging to raise morally upright children who have to watch a philandering father and a miserable mother. What is she going to tell your son? "Why is daddy such a shit?" "It's OK for daddies to be shit, as long as they bring the money. "

5. If you bring an STD to your wife or if your other women get pregnant, you've failed to protect and provide for your family.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2013 09:21     Subject: Bad actions in Vegas
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is the most benign sort of cheating a man can do. Sleazy, but there's no threat to your relationship. He fessed up and is really sorry. It was one time. He wore a condom. Get past it.

Feminism has created a delusion that male cheating is like female cheating. Male cheating is not really a big deal because it doesn't need to affect the relationship; it's usually just for sex. Men's job is to provide for the family. If he's doing that, a little sex on the side is no big deal. It doesn't affect his love for wife and kids.

Female cheating, on the other hand, is the ultimate betrayal. First, there the risk of paternity fraud. And women are the gatekeepers of morality. The woman teaching your kids right from wrong can't be sleeping around and literally letting other men inside of her. That's nasty and a testament to her character.


This would be hilarious if written in jest; however, I think you're serious so it's just very sad. Read what you've written and see how ridiculous it is.


I read it again, and it's even more true the second time. And any man with testes (and any woman if she's truly honest with herself) agrees. A man's job is not to be chaste, it's to protect and provide for his family. A woman's job is to raise and nurture the children, and part of that position is the task of upholding the moral standards. If anything, a man who cheats is a more desirable man, because other women want him.


Seriously, this is one of the stupidest things I have read on this board, and I have been reading stupid things on this board for 5 years now. A man's job? A man's job is to live up to his promises. Being a responsible partner in your marriage does not only apply to the woman. Having a penis doesn't give anyone license to screw around. Your condescending attitude toward women is only matched by your contempt for all men that you have such low expectations for them and such base assumptions about their characters. There are actually mature and enlightened individuals of both genders who have integrity. Lots of men think that fidelity on the part of both spouses actually is essential to protect their families.

Moreover, it is the job of every parent - not just females - to raise his or her children. It is beyond reprehensible to advocate punting all responsibility for the child's character to the mother. You think kids don't get that the mother is being disrespected by the dad? You realize that the children are far more likely to grow up to be serial adulterers themselves.

Also, if you really think that cheating makes you somehow more desirable - well, then you are one fucked-up person. Hope you grow up someday.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2013 00:20     Subject: Bad actions in Vegas
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is the most benign sort of cheating a man can do. Sleazy, but there's no threat to your relationship. He fessed up and is really sorry. It was one time. He wore a condom. Get past it.

Feminism has created a delusion that male cheating is like female cheating. Male cheating is not really a big deal because it doesn't need to affect the relationship; it's usually just for sex. Men's job is to provide for the family. If he's doing that, a little sex on the side is no big deal. It doesn't affect his love for wife and kids.

Female cheating, on the other hand, is the ultimate betrayal. First, there the risk of paternity fraud. And women are the gatekeepers of morality. The woman teaching your kids right from wrong can't be sleeping around and literally letting other men inside of her. That's nasty and a testament to her character.


This would be hilarious if written in jest; however, I think you're serious so it's just very sad. Read what you've written and see how ridiculous it is.


I read it again, and it's even more true the second time. And any man with testes (and any woman if she's truly honest with herself) agrees. A man's job is not to be chaste, it's to protect and provide for his family. A woman's job is to raise and nurture the children, and part of that position is the task of upholding the moral standards. If anything, a man who cheats is a more desirable man, because other women want him.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2013 21:52     Subject: Bad actions in Vegas
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I would just forget about it and not bring it up. It's apparent he feels horrible about it. Just make sure he tests again for stds in two months or so, just to be sure


This. It was one mess-up, not some full-scale affair. He's not sneaking around with the woman, seeking out some relationship, etc. He just got too drunk and did something stupid. Yes, he shouldn't have gotten that drunk, but he's not used to drinking that much either.

Forgive him and move on.


Alcohol is an excuse
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2013 21:51     Subject: Bad actions in Vegas
OP. you can stay married and he'll fuck around forever or you can leave.
Now, will you stay or will you go?