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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you kiddin? On the DCUM most kids aren't trained till 4 and then most of them are still sleeping in pull ups at five.  This is a population off rents who let kids dictate everything and any "challenge" is immediately diagnosed as kid isn't ready.  Parents also just fine diapers easier than finding restrooms.  Age 3 is plenty ready to start.[/quote]

Are you buying or changing their diapers? Then shut up. [/quote]

I think I have said this before. A diaper on a 3 year old is the biggest red flag a parent can throw up for me. This means that the parent bends over backwards in a zillion ways to try to help the child, but always ends up harming him/her. For example, these are the same kids who don't swim well until later because the parents freak them out about it, don't climb to the top of the jungle gym, are picky eaters, etc. Be respectful of your child as a person and help him or her grow and be confident. This starts in babyhood/toddlerhood. He/she will have an easier time in school, making friends, and in life. Infantilizing is not helping. As soon as I see that diaper, I run. My kids don't even know how to react to 3 year olds talking about having a poop in their pants (I have seen them have a funny look on their faces in a couple of these situations) because we don't generally spend time with these people and their school requires potty training by 2.5. And no--I AM NOT REFERRING TO THE SPECIAL NEEDS COMMUNITY. [/quote]

The thing is though, you'd never guess when you see him on the playground or running around at his brothers tball game that my 3.5 year old is special needs. And, in fact, in the grand scheme his special needs are pretty mild, but they do directly affect his ability to toilet train. Yet I'm sure you see his diaper and judge both him and me. Believe me, I've tried every method, every book, every prize, anything you can think of, but he is simply not capable at this point. And there is no one more frustrated by that than me.[/quote]

I'm not talking about special needs, regardless of whether I can diagnose the child. I'm only talking about non-special needs. Many people have posted that it's totally normal to wait until 3. They were not discussing SN. No one is talking about your SN child! [/quote]

Glad to know that's the case for you. I'm just trying to remind anyone who is tempted to judge a parent based solely on seeing a diaper on what appears to be a "normal" 3 year old (I've read enough of these threads over the past 7 years to know that plenty of people do) to stop for a second and remind themselves that they don't know the specifics about any child or family.[/quote]

Actually, when I was growing up, a diaper over 3 and definitely 4 usually did mean special needs. You should be annoyed that people with non-SN kids are to lazy/incompetent to potty train them and are making your kid receive unwarranted judgment.  If your child were one of few 3 or older children in diapers, people would assume there was a good reason and lay off![/quote]

Actually, I think I'll just stick to worrying about my own kids and not wasting time or energy questioning others' toilet habits. But thanks for the suggestion.[/quote]

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