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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and DD are both autistic. It’s really as simple as that. Get a full evaluation and move forward with the right tools. [/quote]

The school evaluation determined she doesn’t quite meet the criteria for autism.  I do honestly think it’s something that presents a lot like autism in many ways, but it’s different.

I think she likely has DH’s traits that are similar to autism- and some of the personality traits. But then she also has some of my adhd traits, which causes a lot of frustration for her because she knows she is smart and yet she gets easily stuck. And I think it’s the combination that is truly problematic. Because DH can’t be taught- he needs to figure out everything for himself. He has never let me teach him anything. He slept through all of his med school classes and yet was able to pass with flying colors because he had the ability because he’s a genius. She does not have that same ability.[/quote]

He “can’t be taught anything by you” because he knows he’ll fail and fail again. So it’s easier in his mind to be belligerent and defiant. And refuse to be taught or to learn anything other than his pros al hyper interest(s). [/quote]

I think it’s more that he just won’t learn anything unless he himself decides it’s an important thing to learn, and then when he learns it, he needs to do it his way. He also had really high standards for himself- he was first in his class for both HS and undergrad, and got a full scholarship to graduate school. But he does academic work really easily and quickly and he was able to do all that while having a very active annd involved and college social life. AND sleeping through all his classes. And then in med school, he got over his need to be the best.

Unfortunately I think our daughter’s slowness, disorganized thinking, and complete lack of interest in socialization comes from me. I was socially oblivious until 9th grade when I suddenly wanted to belong and do social things. And in hs, I was easily spending 5hrs a night on homework and it wasn’t until maybe 12th grade that I learned that my other classmates were getting most of their homework done in study period. [/quote]

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