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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you need to get a grip. I worked FT, in office with a husband who worked long hours.  I did all the morning and evening stuff, managed to clean my house, feed my kids, do laundry and enjoy my weekends.  You and your husband are just lazy and not organized.  I also enjoyed time with friends as did my DH and kids.  You are just too much.[/quote]

Definitely not lazy, we both have advanced degrees, but probably disorganized. So you did everything and your DH just worked? That actually probably works best honestly, I think coordination eats up a lot of our time.

How did it work in the evenings? Our kids are elementary and middle school, we have activities 4 nights a week, kids have homework and we both commute 30-60 minutes?  How did you squeeze everything into the 5 hours from 6:00 - 11:00pm?[/quote]

I'm a different poster. But here's what we did-- drastically reduced the coordination by giving each adult total control over certain broad topics. So for example, DH is in charge of ALL food. He plans, shops/orders, and cooks, every dinner and 3 meals a day on weekends, without fail. Nobody gets to have an opinion about anything he decides to buy or cook. I clean up after dinner, and after each weekend meal, every time without fail. He is also 100% responsible for the car. I am the lead on small-potatoes school stuff, and on swimming. He's the lead on soccer and piano. I handle all kids' clothing and medical/dental. We try VERY hard not to micromanage and second-guess each other. This saves a lot of time. BUT, it only works if both parents are very, very reliable and can be trusted to complete their jobs on time and to the agreed-upon standard, taking initiative and not needing any reminders from the other person. [/quote]

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