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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Regarding biphobia:

People need to learn to distinguish between a person judging/shaming someone for their sexual orientation, and people making personal choices about who they want to have sex with.

In other words, it is not biphobic for a straight person to want to have sex only with other straight people. It's just a sexual preference. It's no different from a gay man deciding he doesn't want to have sex with lesbians. Doesn't mean he is homophobic, it means he knows what he likes and it's not sex with lesbians.[/quote]

Nope, wrong.  It's a phobia.  Why?  Because you're either attracted to a person or you're not.  It doesn't or shouldn't matter who else the person ypu're attracted to might also be attracted to -- so long as you're chief among the people they're attracted to.

[b]Your argument only makes sense if you're saying you can only be attracted to anyone who is exclusively attracted to you.[/b]  And that person doesn't exist.  [/quote]

The bolded is nonsensical. No one said they wanted a man who is only attracted to them, personally. I want any man I'm with to only be attracted to women. Not just me, but women generally as a group. The idea of a man who likes dick is a turn off to me. I'm not judging him. In fact, I hope he finds happiness and fulfillment. But not with me, because our sexualities are not compatible.

There are men who aren't attracted to me because of my body type. Are the "phobic" of women with my body type? No, they just have a sexual preference. I wish them well. I don't need every man on the planet to be open to the idea of having sex with me. Well why would bisexuality be any different? Some people might be into it, some people (like me) are not, some people are probably indifferent. What's the big deal?[/quote]

There’s a huge difference between what you’re describing and with being bi.  If a man isn’t attracted to you because of your “body type” that means he’s not attracted to you—plain and simple.  And if you’re not attracted to him for the same reason it means the same thing—not attracted.

But if a man is attracted to you and also attracted to a man that doesn’t mean he isn’t attracted to you.  And if you find him physically attractive not knowing he’s bi then that means you ARE attracted to him.  It’s only once you discover that he’s also attracted to men that you lose the attraction.   That’s the very definition of bi phobia.

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