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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All work is honorable and respectable. She is working 2 jobs and paying her bills. Be proud of her.[/quote]

I just worry about her longevity.  She doesn’t ever ask me for money but lives in a crowded apartment with her girlfriend and band mates.  She just had so much potential now it seems like she may as well have dropped out.  She’d be in the same place.[/quote]

I get it. I have worries about my adult son. Different situation but still. All you can do is enjoy them and remain emotionally available and attuned. My son doesn't often bring up unhappiness with his own life (health problems are part of it and he's kind of withdrawn into himself) but when there is any mention I try to avoid giving advice but just listen really well. I might offer a suggestion but still accept whatever his response it.

Long ago an elderly lady said to me, "you'll always see your baby in him" and that's true.

I assume she didn't pursue that degree out of any idea she would get rich being a SW. I assume she did some kind of clinical stuff in the course of getting the advanced degree and that experience turned her off. But also, I have long held on to the idea that anything you have accomplished remains an asset of some kind, whether you use it directly or not. Ie she HAS the education, and although it's quite a few years out now, she would be in a different position if she does decide to get a "normal job" at some point than if she had in fact dropped out.

And you can be proud of your child even if they don't "live up to their potential." You can be proud of them for being who they are. [/quote]

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