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[quote=Anonymous]My father was a narcissist and he treated all of his children like objects, possessions.  No actual interest in our lives, just kind of collecting our accomplishments so he could brag and take credit for them.  He played favorites and pitted us against one another.  He could hold a grudge like nobody's business -- for years.  Made it clear he didn't like my spouse, never bothered to learn to pronounce his (non-WASP) name correctly.  Never learned to say my children's names correctly.

The reason I am sharing this is whatever kind of peace my mom made with the situation in her marriage, he hurt her kids.  We literally had no experience of what it was like to have a normal father who wasn't "prickly", fragile.  He was the kind of guy that you needed to rehearse every conversation you were going to have with him in your head in order to identify potential landmines.  We were on edge for all of life's milestones -- graduations, etc.  because we never knew what would set him off.

If there are kids involved, then the narc's effects are not going to be just on the spouse. [/quote]

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