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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I disagree with the alliance part. You should individually talk to a staff member about your experience in a cooperative manner. An alliance is not often possible. Say there are 100 kids in the grade, 50 are girls, of the 50 boys 25 are white, of the 25 other you have 5 asian, 5 black, 5 hispanic, 10 "other". Many kids are from other countries or their parents are - everybody has a different background and experience. Each child has a different experience. Most schools so small treat kids as individuals. You can't say for all X kids we need to learn to do Y. It does not work that way.

You need to find a trusted administrator and work through any issue - academic, emotional, spiritual, social, etc.[/quote]

Do you have any tips on how to find a trusted administrator at one's school?  In most predominately white environments racial issues are scoffed at when mentioned or reported.  [/quote]

I would say if there is not an administrator that you have connected with or the student does not have one teacher he/she has connected with - maybe find another family that can help you navigate this new world.

Actually, when I dealt with it, the parent reached out to me (another parent) and I helped identify an administrator that I thought would "get it" and had the ability to manage it.

It was a delicate situation - I was talking about another person's chlid to the admin. They had to check with the family and the child to make sure that was okay.

It was a 2 way street. The administrator is being asked to believe that the child feels out of place whether it is because of race, religion, financial - they want to believe they have created a warm environment. It a hard pill to swallow.

The student/family has to own that maybe they have not been diverse in their own world and their feelings, though real, have to be owned and they have to be willing to be more open to friendships with people they don't feel comfortable being around.

It does not happen by October freshman year. It takes time.

I quickly exited stage left when the student felt empowered to talk for himself which took only about 2 months to build trust.

We entered school on an off year and our school assigned a "host" famiy to us since we missed some nuances that you would learn the first year. I liked the "host" famiy idea. It worked well for me.[/quote]

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