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Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.

I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.

Unlimited Ubers.

That’s insane

1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.

Playing basketball at the local park or in someone’s driveway is free. Kicking around a soccer ball is free. There are a thousand different ways your son could take his girlfriend on dates that cost less than $50 that would show effort and actual thought.

And they do that. But we expect him to take her on one proper date once a month. And pay for things.

They are watching the Bills game this afternoon (the wings will cost me $25), after they go hit golf balls ($20).

You want them to eat oodles of noodles in my basement after basketball at the park?

Again this might be the root of the loneliness epidemic.

They go on hikes, and run together and watch movies and Stranger things.

Shoot a movie out is $50.

They do free things and things that cost $. Even a movie in my basement is $20 worth of pizza.

WTF does a “proper” date mean? One where he spends $100 of your money? And you insist he needs to do this? That is bizarre. He is 17 with no job

Since you asked. A proper date is when you plan something, ask if they are available and you pay for it. sometimes you pick them up, if you do you go in and say hi to the parents or at least you’ve met the parents, you can meet somewhere if the parents have already met you.

Rarely are they $100 … they are generally $25 if you go out once a week but if you do go to the movies and it’s $50. The next 2 dates might just be going for a hike and making sandwiches.


If you see them out or meet up as a group, it’s not a date you generally don’t pay … like a school event or chipotle after school or a bunch of kids going ice skating.

Hanging out in a boys basement is generally not a proper date. But she wanted to see the bills game so that’s today’s date.

He’s not 17 with no job. He’s 17 with a job in the summer. That money usually lasts till December.

How does he manage to spend what I can assume is around 5k, in 3-3.5 months??? He doesn't save any of his money from the summer? This is insane to me.

His budget is $500/mth. He makes ~$3600/ summer … $15/hr x 30/wk x 8 weeks

He spends $500/month.

That runs out in December 7x500=3,500

Jan-may we give him $500/mth because I expect him to do school/sports/volunteer (every Sunday) plus I expect him to have a social life. No sitting minute basement gaming all weekend.

The question was if your kid can’t work, how much money do you give them per month?

He literally spends $13/weeks on his girlfriend and people flipped their lid.

I seriously feel like I figured out why men are having an issue dating when budgeting $25/week for dates is insane to people.

That’s not what you said- at all. Including you insist he takes her at least a one “proper” date per month to the tune of >$100, chipotle at least twice per week, etc. But whatever…no kid needs to spend $500/month plus the unlimited uber you already pay for in order to be social. If he makes $3500 in the summer- he can figure out how to budget that to last 10 months. It isn’t that hard and does not equate to zero social life- at all. $350 per month spending money for a teen is still plenty of money. He could still do his is weekly $25 dates as you say thats all he spends on her with $250 to spare. Where is it all going? He should learn to live within his means. You aren’t helping him, socially or otherwise, by enabling his over the top spending habits.

No, that’s what you read.. not what I said. I said $100 per month.

Sometimes that’s $25 per week. Every blue moon it’s a Caps or mysticsgame and they have to go hiking the other days that cost nothing.

That’s why it’s called teaching your kids how to budget.

He gets chipotle twice a week. BFD. We make dinner three nights a week. We have leftovers and other food you can make the other nights and guess what you can pick up chipotle if you want two nights a week.

Sure he could budget, but I think his budget should be 500 a month and that’s what we told him and at the end of the summer we tell him we will supplement the rest because we want him to learn how to have a social life. We don’t want him sitting in our basement.

I know where it’s all going and I gave you the budget?

I’m sorry your husband doesn’t ever plan a date for you and you think that $12.4 a week is a lot of money. And $200 a month is a huge amount of money to spend on yourself working out, doing a hobby, whatever. It’s odd to me you think $100 a month is a lot of money to spend on clothes.

My kids learned how to budget with their own money. I’m sure their budget with money from the bank of Mom would be different. I cannot believe a 17 year old boy would take money from his mom every month to spend on his girlfriend. How embarrassing.

Sure, Jan.

Nobody believes that your 17-year-old doesn’t buy chipotle with your money.

Nothing you said is believable.

There’s no 17-year-old in the DMV that is 100% independent of their parents money.

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.

I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.

Unlimited Ubers.

That’s insane

1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.

Playing basketball at the local park or in someone’s driveway is free. Kicking around a soccer ball is free. There are a thousand different ways your son could take his girlfriend on dates that cost less than $50 that would show effort and actual thought.

And they do that. But we expect him to take her on one proper date once a month. And pay for things.

They are watching the Bills game this afternoon (the wings will cost me $25), after they go hit golf balls ($20).

You want them to eat oodles of noodles in my basement after basketball at the park?

Again this might be the root of the loneliness epidemic.

They go on hikes, and run together and watch movies and Stranger things.

Shoot a movie out is $50.

They do free things and things that cost $. Even a movie in my basement is $20 worth of pizza.

WTF does a “proper” date mean? One where he spends $100 of your money? And you insist he needs to do this? That is bizarre. He is 17 with no job

Since you asked. A proper date is when you plan something, ask if they are available and you pay for it. sometimes you pick them up, if you do you go in and say hi to the parents or at least you’ve met the parents, you can meet somewhere if the parents have already met you.

Rarely are they $100 … they are generally $25 if you go out once a week but if you do go to the movies and it’s $50. The next 2 dates might just be going for a hike and making sandwiches.


If you see them out or meet up as a group, it’s not a date you generally don’t pay … like a school event or chipotle after school or a bunch of kids going ice skating.

Hanging out in a boys basement is generally not a proper date. But she wanted to see the bills game so that’s today’s date.

He’s not 17 with no job. He’s 17 with a job in the summer. That money usually lasts till December.

How does he manage to spend what I can assume is around 5k, in 3-3.5 months??? He doesn't save any of his money from the summer? This is insane to me.

His budget is $500/mth. He makes ~$3600/ summer … $15/hr x 30/wk x 8 weeks

He spends $500/month.

That runs out in December 7x500=3,500

Jan-may we give him $500/mth because I expect him to do school/sports/volunteer (every Sunday) plus I expect him to have a social life. No sitting minute basement gaming all weekend.

The question was if your kid can’t work, how much money do you give them per month?

He literally spends $13/weeks on his girlfriend and people flipped their lid.

I seriously feel like I figured out why men are having an issue dating when budgeting $25/week for dates is insane to people.

That’s not what you said- at all. Including you insist he takes her at least a one “proper” date per month to the tune of >$100, chipotle at least twice per week, etc. But whatever…no kid needs to spend $500/month plus the unlimited uber you already pay for in order to be social. If he makes $3500 in the summer- he can figure out how to budget that to last 10 months. It isn’t that hard and does not equate to zero social life- at all. $350 per month spending money for a teen is still plenty of money. He could still do his is weekly $25 dates as you say thats all he spends on her with $250 to spare. Where is it all going? He should learn to live within his means. You aren’t helping him, socially or otherwise, by enabling his over the top spending habits.

No, that’s what you read.. not what I said. I said $100 per month.

Sometimes that’s $25 per week. Every blue moon it’s a Caps or mysticsgame and they have to go hiking the other days that cost nothing.

That’s why it’s called teaching your kids how to budget.

He gets chipotle twice a week. BFD. We make dinner three nights a week. We have leftovers and other food you can make the other nights and guess what you can pick up chipotle if you want two nights a week.

Sure he could budget, but I think his budget should be 500 a month and that’s what we told him and at the end of the summer we tell him we will supplement the rest because we want him to learn how to have a social life. We don’t want him sitting in our basement.

I know where it’s all going and I gave you the budget?

I’m sorry your husband doesn’t ever plan a date for you and you think that $12.4 a week is a lot of money. And $200 a month is a huge amount of money to spend on yourself working out, doing a hobby, whatever. It’s odd to me you think $100 a month is a lot of money to spend on clothes.

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.

I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.

Unlimited Ubers.

That’s insane

1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.

Playing basketball at the local park or in someone’s driveway is free. Kicking around a soccer ball is free. There are a thousand different ways your son could take his girlfriend on dates that cost less than $50 that would show effort and actual thought.

And they do that. But we expect him to take her on one proper date once a month. And pay for things.

They are watching the Bills game this afternoon (the wings will cost me $25), after they go hit golf balls ($20).

You want them to eat oodles of noodles in my basement after basketball at the park?

Again this might be the root of the loneliness epidemic.

They go on hikes, and run together and watch movies and Stranger things.

Shoot a movie out is $50.

They do free things and things that cost $. Even a movie in my basement is $20 worth of pizza.

WTF does a “proper” date mean? One where he spends $100 of your money? And you insist he needs to do this? That is bizarre. He is 17 with no job

Since you asked. A proper date is when you plan something, ask if they are available and you pay for it. sometimes you pick them up, if you do you go in and say hi to the parents or at least you’ve met the parents, you can meet somewhere if the parents have already met you.

Rarely are they $100 … they are generally $25 if you go out once a week but if you do go to the movies and it’s $50. The next 2 dates might just be going for a hike and making sandwiches.


If you see them out or meet up as a group, it’s not a date you generally don’t pay … like a school event or chipotle after school or a bunch of kids going ice skating.

Hanging out in a boys basement is generally not a proper date. But she wanted to see the bills game so that’s today’s date.

He’s not 17 with no job. He’s 17 with a job in the summer. That money usually lasts till December.

How does he manage to spend what I can assume is around 5k, in 3-3.5 months??? He doesn't save any of his money from the summer? This is insane to me.

His budget is $500/mth. He makes ~$3600/ summer … $15/hr x 30/wk x 8 weeks

He spends $500/month.

That runs out in December 7x500=3,500

Jan-may we give him $500/mth because I expect him to do school/sports/volunteer (every Sunday) plus I expect him to have a social life. No sitting minute basement gaming all weekend.

The question was if your kid can’t work, how much money do you give them per month?

He literally spends $13/weeks on his girlfriend and people flipped their lid.

I seriously feel like I figured out why men are having an issue dating when budgeting $25/week for dates is insane to people.

That’s not what you said- at all. Including you insist he takes her at least a one “proper” date per month to the tune of >$100, chipotle at least twice per week, etc. But whatever…no kid needs to spend $500/month plus the unlimited uber you already pay for in order to be social. If he makes $3500 in the summer- he can figure out how to budget that to last 10 months. It isn’t that hard and does not equate to zero social life- at all. $350 per month spending money for a teen is still plenty of money. He could still do his is weekly $25 dates as you say thats all he spends on her with $250 to spare. Where is it all going? He should learn to live within his means. You aren’t helping him, socially or otherwise, by enabling his over the top spending habits.

No, that’s what you read.. not what I said. I said $100 per month.

Sometimes that’s $25 per week. Every blue moon it’s a Caps or mysticsgame and they have to go hiking the other days that cost nothing.

That’s why it’s called teaching your kids how to budget.

He gets chipotle twice a week. BFD. We make dinner three nights a week. We have leftovers and other food you can make the other nights and guess what you can pick up chipotle if you want two nights a week.

Sure he could budget, but I think his budget should be 500 a month and that’s what we told him and at the end of the summer we tell him we will supplement the rest because we want him to learn how to have a social life. We don’t want him sitting in our basement.

I know where it’s all going and I gave you the budget?

I’m sorry your husband doesn’t ever plan a date for you and you think that $12.4 a week is a lot of money. And $200 a month is a huge amount of money to spend on yourself working out, doing a hobby, whatever. It’s odd to me you think $100 a month is a lot of money to spend on clothes.

My kids learned how to budget with their own money. I’m sure their budget with money from the bank of Mom would be different. I cannot believe a 17 year old boy would take money from his mom every month to spend on his girlfriend. How embarrassing.

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.

I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.

Unlimited Ubers.

That’s insane

1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.

Playing basketball at the local park or in someone’s driveway is free. Kicking around a soccer ball is free. There are a thousand different ways your son could take his girlfriend on dates that cost less than $50 that would show effort and actual thought.

And they do that. But we expect him to take her on one proper date once a month. And pay for things.

They are watching the Bills game this afternoon (the wings will cost me $25), after they go hit golf balls ($20).

You want them to eat oodles of noodles in my basement after basketball at the park?

Again this might be the root of the loneliness epidemic.

They go on hikes, and run together and watch movies and Stranger things.

Shoot a movie out is $50.

They do free things and things that cost $. Even a movie in my basement is $20 worth of pizza.

WTF does a “proper” date mean? One where he spends $100 of your money? And you insist he needs to do this? That is bizarre. He is 17 with no job

Since you asked. A proper date is when you plan something, ask if they are available and you pay for it. sometimes you pick them up, if you do you go in and say hi to the parents or at least you’ve met the parents, you can meet somewhere if the parents have already met you.

Rarely are they $100 … they are generally $25 if you go out once a week but if you do go to the movies and it’s $50. The next 2 dates might just be going for a hike and making sandwiches.


If you see them out or meet up as a group, it’s not a date you generally don’t pay … like a school event or chipotle after school or a bunch of kids going ice skating.

Hanging out in a boys basement is generally not a proper date. But she wanted to see the bills game so that’s today’s date.

He’s not 17 with no job. He’s 17 with a job in the summer. That money usually lasts till December.

How does he manage to spend what I can assume is around 5k, in 3-3.5 months??? He doesn't save any of his money from the summer? This is insane to me.

His budget is $500/mth. He makes ~$3600/ summer … $15/hr x 30/wk x 8 weeks

He spends $500/month.

That runs out in December 7x500=3,500

Jan-may we give him $500/mth because I expect him to do school/sports/volunteer (every Sunday) plus I expect him to have a social life. No sitting minute basement gaming all weekend.

The question was if your kid can’t work, how much money do you give them per month?

He literally spends $13/weeks on his girlfriend and people flipped their lid.

I seriously feel like I figured out why men are having an issue dating when budgeting $25/week for dates is insane to people.

That’s not what you said- at all. Including you insist he takes her at least a one “proper” date per month to the tune of >$100, chipotle at least twice per week, etc. But whatever…no kid needs to spend $500/month plus the unlimited uber you already pay for in order to be social. If he makes $3500 in the summer- he can figure out how to budget that to last 10 months. It isn’t that hard and does not equate to zero social life- at all. $350 per month spending money for a teen is still plenty of money. He could still do his is weekly $25 dates as you say thats all he spends on her with $250 to spare. Where is it all going? He should learn to live within his means. You aren’t helping him, socially or otherwise, by enabling his over the top spending habits.

No, that’s what you read.. not what I said. I said $100 per month.

Sometimes that’s $25 per week. Every blue moon it’s a Caps or mysticsgame and they have to go hiking the other days that cost nothing.

That’s why it’s called teaching your kids how to budget.

He gets chipotle twice a week. BFD. We make dinner three nights a week. We have leftovers and other food you can make the other nights and guess what you can pick up chipotle if you want two nights a week.

Sure he could budget, but I think his budget should be 500 a month and that’s what we told him and at the end of the summer we tell him we will supplement the rest because we want him to learn how to have a social life. We don’t want him sitting in our basement.

I know where it’s all going and I gave you the budget?

I’m sorry your husband doesn’t ever plan a date for you and you think that $12.4 a week is a lot of money. And $200 a month is a huge amount of money to spend on yourself working out, doing a hobby, whatever. It’s odd to me you think $100 a month is a lot of money to spend on clothes.

Anonymous wrote:Nothing, really. She does work 3 hours on Sunday, so that is about $50/week. We pay for gas and insurance. We'll give her money if she needs it but I can't even remember the last time she asked. Kids that are that busy with their sport (will be D1 next year) don't have that much free time to drop a lot of money. She does still have a lot saved up from summers, too.

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.

I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.

Unlimited Ubers.

That’s insane

1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.

Playing basketball at the local park or in someone’s driveway is free. Kicking around a soccer ball is free. There are a thousand different ways your son could take his girlfriend on dates that cost less than $50 that would show effort and actual thought.

And they do that. But we expect him to take her on one proper date once a month. And pay for things.

They are watching the Bills game this afternoon (the wings will cost me $25), after they go hit golf balls ($20).

You want them to eat oodles of noodles in my basement after basketball at the park?

Again this might be the root of the loneliness epidemic.

They go on hikes, and run together and watch movies and Stranger things.

Shoot a movie out is $50.

They do free things and things that cost $. Even a movie in my basement is $20 worth of pizza.

WTF does a “proper” date mean? One where he spends $100 of your money? And you insist he needs to do this? That is bizarre. He is 17 with no job

Since you asked. A proper date is when you plan something, ask if they are available and you pay for it. sometimes you pick them up, if you do you go in and say hi to the parents or at least you’ve met the parents, you can meet somewhere if the parents have already met you.

Rarely are they $100 … they are generally $25 if you go out once a week but if you do go to the movies and it’s $50. The next 2 dates might just be going for a hike and making sandwiches.


If you see them out or meet up as a group, it’s not a date you generally don’t pay … like a school event or chipotle after school or a bunch of kids going ice skating.

Hanging out in a boys basement is generally not a proper date. But she wanted to see the bills game so that’s today’s date.

He’s not 17 with no job. He’s 17 with a job in the summer. That money usually lasts till December.

How does he manage to spend what I can assume is around 5k, in 3-3.5 months??? He doesn't save any of his money from the summer? This is insane to me.

His budget is $500/mth. He makes ~$3600/ summer … $15/hr x 30/wk x 8 weeks

He spends $500/month.

That runs out in December 7x500=3,500

Jan-may we give him $500/mth because I expect him to do school/sports/volunteer (every Sunday) plus I expect him to have a social life. No sitting minute basement gaming all weekend.

The question was if your kid can’t work, how much money do you give them per month?

He literally spends $13/weeks on his girlfriend and people flipped their lid.

I seriously feel like I figured out why men are having an issue dating when budgeting $25/week for dates is insane to people.

That’s not what you said- at all. Including you insist he takes her at least a one “proper” date per month to the tune of >$100, chipotle at least twice per week, etc. But whatever…no kid needs to spend $500/month plus the unlimited uber you already pay for in order to be social. If he makes $3500 in the summer- he can figure out how to budget that to last 10 months. It isn’t that hard and does not equate to zero social life- at all. $350 per month spending money for a teen is still plenty of money. He could still do his is weekly $25 dates as you say thats all he spends on her with $250 to spare. Where is it all going? He should learn to live within his means. You aren’t helping him, socially or otherwise, by enabling his over the top spending habits.

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.

I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.

Unlimited Ubers.

That’s insane

1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.

Hanging out at your house is free. Or he can get a job and pay for his dates

You’d rather my kid hang in our basement with his girlfriend than take her on a proper date at least once a month. Or catch a capitals game once a month with his friends? No wonder young men are such a mess now a days.

You think he should give up golfing?

You think he should quit coaching kids and being a special Olympics unified partner to “get a job”?

The whole question was for kids who can’t work right now due to school/sports/volunteering. It wasn’t for slackers hanging in moms basement.

I am clapping and cheering your parenting. Thank you for raising a son correctly and thank you for teaching him to give of himself to others. He has all of his life to work, volunteering is super important and not enough kids do it or are taught to do it. Keep up the great work and let the haters hate, IMO it shows you are on the right path.

I’m literally laughing at the absurdity of this thread.

He’s done Special Olympics since he was 11 and he likes being a Unified Partner and he’s a good student, does sports (but not travel in HS) is a nice boyfriend (budgeting $25/week for a date… literally buying a chipotle or a sub /week), has friends, has a hobby ….

And someone posted he will be an incel on welfare in his 20’s because of his budget.

😂

Budgeting from what? He has no money, other than yours because he blew through all his by Dec. Spending an entire summer’s worth of income in 3 months doesn’t sound like he is very good at budgeting.

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.

I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.

Unlimited Ubers.

That’s insane

1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.

Playing basketball at the local park or in someone’s driveway is free. Kicking around a soccer ball is free. There are a thousand different ways your son could take his girlfriend on dates that cost less than $50 that would show effort and actual thought.

And they do that. But we expect him to take her on one proper date once a month. And pay for things.

They are watching the Bills game this afternoon (the wings will cost me $25), after they go hit golf balls ($20).

You want them to eat oodles of noodles in my basement after basketball at the park?

Again this might be the root of the loneliness epidemic.

They go on hikes, and run together and watch movies and Stranger things.

Shoot a movie out is $50.

They do free things and things that cost $. Even a movie in my basement is $20 worth of pizza.

WTF does a “proper” date mean? One where he spends $100 of your money? And you insist he needs to do this? That is bizarre. He is 17 with no job

Since you asked. A proper date is when you plan something, ask if they are available and you pay for it. sometimes you pick them up, if you do you go in and say hi to the parents or at least you’ve met the parents, you can meet somewhere if the parents have already met you.

Rarely are they $100 … they are generally $25 if you go out once a week but if you do go to the movies and it’s $50. The next 2 dates might just be going for a hike and making sandwiches.


If you see them out or meet up as a group, it’s not a date you generally don’t pay … like a school event or chipotle after school or a bunch of kids going ice skating.

Hanging out in a boys basement is generally not a proper date. But she wanted to see the bills game so that’s today’s date.

He’s not 17 with no job. He’s 17 with a job in the summer. That money usually lasts till December.

How does he manage to spend what I can assume is around 5k, in 3-3.5 months??? He doesn't save any of his money from the summer? This is insane to me.

His budget is $500/mth. He makes ~$3600/ summer … $15/hr x 30/wk x 8 weeks

He spends $500/month.

That runs out in December 7x500=3,500

Jan-may we give him $500/mth because I expect him to do school/sports/volunteer (every Sunday) plus I expect him to have a social life. No sitting minute basement gaming all weekend.

The question was if your kid can’t work, how much money do you give them per month?

He literally spends $13/weeks on his girlfriend and people flipped their lid.

I seriously feel like I figured out why men are having an issue dating when budgeting $25/week for dates is insane to people.

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.

I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.

Unlimited Ubers.

That’s insane

1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.

Hanging out at your house is free. Or he can get a job and pay for his dates

You’d rather my kid hang in our basement with his girlfriend than take her on a proper date at least once a month. Or catch a capitals game once a month with his friends? No wonder young men are such a mess now a days.

You think he should give up golfing?

You think he should quit coaching kids and being a special Olympics unified partner to “get a job”?

The whole question was for kids who can’t work right now due to school/sports/volunteering. It wasn’t for slackers hanging in moms basement.

I am clapping and cheering your parenting. Thank you for raising a son correctly and thank you for teaching him to give of himself to others. He has all of his life to work, volunteering is super important and not enough kids do it or are taught to do it. Keep up the great work and let the haters hate, IMO it shows you are on the right path.

I’m literally laughing at the absurdity of this thread.

He’s done Special Olympics since he was 11 and he likes being a Unified Partner and he’s a good student, does sports (but not travel in HS) is a nice boyfriend (budgeting $25/week for a date… literally buying a chipotle or a sub /week), has friends, has a hobby ….

And someone posted he will be an incel on welfare in his 20’s because of his budget.

😂

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.

I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.

Unlimited Ubers.

That’s insane

1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.

Hanging out at your house is free. Or he can get a job and pay for his dates

You’d rather my kid hang in our basement with his girlfriend than take her on a proper date at least once a month. Or catch a capitals game once a month with his friends? No wonder young men are such a mess now a days.

You think he should give up golfing?

You think he should quit coaching kids and being a special Olympics unified partner to “get a job”?

The whole question was for kids who can’t work right now due to school/sports/volunteering. It wasn’t for slackers hanging in moms basement.

I am clapping and cheering your parenting. Thank you for raising a son correctly and thank you for teaching him to give of himself to others. He has all of his life to work, volunteering is super important and not enough kids do it or are taught to do it. Keep up the great work and let the haters hate, IMO it shows you are on the right path.

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.

I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.

Unlimited Ubers.

That’s insane

1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.

Playing basketball at the local park or in someone’s driveway is free. Kicking around a soccer ball is free. There are a thousand different ways your son could take his girlfriend on dates that cost less than $50 that would show effort and actual thought.

And they do that. But we expect him to take her on one proper date once a month. And pay for things.

They are watching the Bills game this afternoon (the wings will cost me $25), after they go hit golf balls ($20).

You want them to eat oodles of noodles in my basement after basketball at the park?

Again this might be the root of the loneliness epidemic.

They go on hikes, and run together and watch movies and Stranger things.

Shoot a movie out is $50.

They do free things and things that cost $. Even a movie in my basement is $20 worth of pizza.

WTF does a “proper” date mean? One where he spends $100 of your money? And you insist he needs to do this? That is bizarre. He is 17 with no job

Since you asked. A proper date is when you plan something, ask if they are available and you pay for it. sometimes you pick them up, if you do you go in and say hi to the parents or at least you’ve met the parents, you can meet somewhere if the parents have already met you.

Rarely are they $100 … they are generally $25 if you go out once a week but if you do go to the movies and it’s $50. The next 2 dates might just be going for a hike and making sandwiches.


If you see them out or meet up as a group, it’s not a date you generally don’t pay … like a school event or chipotle after school or a bunch of kids going ice skating.

Hanging out in a boys basement is generally not a proper date. But she wanted to see the bills game so that’s today’s date.

He’s not 17 with no job. He’s 17 with a job in the summer. That money usually lasts till December.

How does he manage to spend what I can assume is around 5k, in 3-3.5 months??? He doesn't save any of his money from the summer? This is insane to me.

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.

I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.

Unlimited Ubers.

Wow. That is way more than I give my college student who also can’t work due to sports and school and who doesn’t have access to a car.

I give my college student $50 a week and no uber allowance. She is required to pay for everything on that - activities, sports dinners, clothes, etc. (She doesn’t have to pay for sporting equipment or clothes or shoes because sponsors pay for that).

Do you want a cookie?

No, the PP is just trying to add some sanity to the post. It’s obvious you are “that mom,” who tries so hard to be cool. “I won’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol.” Sure, Jan.

Anonymous wrote:I actually think golfing PP is not too bad IF her son is helping out a lot at home. Doing significant cleaning and helping shop and cook on the weekends at least and he’s doing a really significant amount of volunteering over the summer such that he cannot work more than like 10 hours a week and that’s why he runs out of summer money so fast. It sounds like the money includes clothes and gas and that can add up. I am rolling my eyes along with you all at the paying for dates and horror over not being able to golf but if they as a family have decided his “job” is to pad his resume then they are paying him to do that job.

I just hope they aren’t also teaching him he is entitled to full time chef and maid service at the same time….