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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds like OP's wife does enjoy these things, just also finds them tiring like PP. And OP may be suffering from a poor understanding of holidays. If he thinks his wife can just cut back on everything she does and nobody will mind and there will be no consequences, think again. Family and community relationships are reciprocal and require at least a little bit of time and effort. Sometimes men are just coasting on their wife's effort so they don't realize this. But blowing off everyone's parties, giving no gifts, refusing to travel, being a crap host or telling houseguests they aren't welcome absolutely does have long-term relationship consequences. OP may be fine with the loss of those relationships but that doesn't mean it isn't a real consideration. [/quote]

I hear you.  But you don’t have to blow things off.  You can just go to parties if you are available, spend one afternoon picking out gifts at one store, not host a party on your own, host houseguests in a spare room, and make a meat, veggie, and starch for dinner or order takeout.  It doesn’t have to be a feast.  
And then you can spend the time you would spend focused on those things doing all of the Christmas traditions (picking the perfect tree, going to the Nutcracker, riding the Polar Express, etc.), doing religious things (Jesse tree , church, giving to the poor, etc), and decorating your house for Christmas.

Or you can decide that you want to focus on hosting a party and accepting party invitations, visiting extended family, and sending out beautiful cards.  And then you don’t go to all of the traditional things, decorate minimally, and spend one or two afternoons shopping for gifts for everyone (including kids).

You shouldn’t blow off everything, but you can’t make everything the most important thing either.  
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I think everyone knows that half-assing some of the stuff is an option. Not sure what you think you're proving here with your condescending explanation. We all have the option of blowing things off, choosing gifts very sloppily, not visiting, etc., and that has consequences that we can choose to accept. Clearly, OP's wife has considered her options and would rather direct her energy into Christmas stuff rather than having s*x with OP. She's not laboring under the delusion that all of this other stuff is required. She just isn't that into OP. Whether he chooses to help her, reason with her, or belittle her is up to OP.[/quote]

Okay.  
You keep doing you!!! [/quote]

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