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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] I am a person whose calendar is now completely booked till Jan 10th, 2026.   Then I am unavailable from 1st Feb to 10th April.

I have many friends who are super busy with family, social obligations, travel, medical treatments...and we all are empty nesters in our 50s and 60s.

My unavailability should not inconvenience anyone. It is what it is.

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I am so curious about this.  Can you share what you are doing each weekend (in a general sense?)

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I hate this question. It’s like asking a new mom who’s unable to find time to shower what she does all day. If you don’t have a color-coded calendar where each color is a different family member, you aren’t operating the same family as someone who just has a handful of events. Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year, Homecoming, Middle School dance, kids’ birthday parties (attending and hosting friends), sports games, recitals, fall theater performance. Then there’s the shopping, prepping, planning, organizing. We’re traveling one weekend for a wedding. I grew up locally and have parents who also have birthdays, need hospital visits. Nieces, nephews have big events.

I see parent friends at school events and sports games. Sometimes after years of cheering on the same sideline, I find I have friends I want to see. Scheduling is always a challenge.

I also have friends who are family, like my kids’ godparents. Luckily we are all in the same boat. We will drop everything for each other in an emergency. Otherwise we’re understanding of commitments and spend months just texting funny videos back and forth.

Even when the kids are out, parents, nieces and nephews will need attention. The time that’s left, I’m spending doing everything I don’t have time to do now: working unrestrained hours, traveling, taking care of my own health.

Are there actually people who have endless hours of free time?[/quote]

OP here. The friend is local and has local extended family.

My family is the busiest in terms of kid activities and work. My husband has the most demanding job if that matters. I’m not local and don’t have local family.

Our husbands work in the same industry. My husband is more senior. The very few times my husband has reached out, that husband always says yes.

I don’t think the friend doesn’t like me. We are as good friends as mom friends as we can be. Our kids attend the same school. [/quote]

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