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[quote=Anonymous]I have had bad experiences with women in my social circle who ask these questions a lot and then will go out and buy the EXACT same items, and it is awkward. Especially if it's a dress I might wear to a party. If it's just a pair of jeans or a t-shirt, who cares. But if it's a dress with a somewhat memorable pattern or style, it is genuinely annoying to have someone in the same social circle who owns the same one.

There was a woman in my orbit some years ago who would basically just buy all my clothes. It started with workout clothes because we took exercise classes together (along with lots of other women in our social circle). If she saw me wearing anything even a little bit recognizable -- leggings with a unique pattern, specific sneakers, etc. -- she would go buy identical ones. The first one or two times it happened it was like "oh haha twins!" But it got weird. Then she started doing it with other things -- at one point she had the exact same pair of tall block heel boots, in the same camel leather, several dresses, and a winter coat identical to mine.

I don't have amazing style or anything. Also this woman didn't have the same body type as me and it seemed odd I would be her style guide. But mostly it was just weird. People started assuming we were best friends because she dressed so much like me, but I barely knew her. It just felt creepy and sad and I found myself avoiding wearing the items she'd copied just to avoid comments or questions (or risk matching) which sucked.

So I guess now I can be cagey about it. I'm not trying to gatekeeper, but I feel weird about it. If some people weren't obsessively copycat in this way, I don't think I'd care. But at this point I do wonder, if someone asks, if they are just going to go buy the same thing and then it's weird.[/quote]

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