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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][size=18] [/size][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Life is hard and you don't know what people are dealing with from the surface. Some students and parents have backgrounds of trauma or special needs and this pandemic and the arrested development it led to for many kids was hard on social growth and maturity.[/quote]

Just how long can we get away with blaming the pandemic for parenting fails?[/quote]

The pandemic was an adverse childhood event (ACE). Children with an ACE score of three or more tend to do poorly. So if a kid had a well adjusted childhood, the pandemic bumped their ACE score from zero to one. Those kids are still doing well. A child whose parents already divorced had an ACE score of one. The pandemic bumped that child’s ACE score to two. They’re still okay. But the child of divorce whose parent later got cancer now has an ACE score of 3, and that kid is likely to really struggle.

It’s not parenting fails, pp. More people in this generation are going to struggle. I think it will span from the college class of 2020 to about the class of 2040 or so. That’s the generation that was between ages 2 and 22 during lockdown. The pandemic was absolutely an ACE for my 3yo, but not for my 1yo. [/quote]

Your 3 yo Covid child is 8 now. Doubtful that s/he has any recollection.

And if you believe the pandemic was such a major “ACE” for an entire generation what does that say about the fragile nature of these kids?[/quote]

For the kids whose parents claim they struggle it often times seems they did because their parents encouraged them to struggle during covid.  Kids whose parents viewed covid as a "it's happening to everyone, this is just something we have to do so lets make the best of it" tended to not be as dramatic and managed to survive it.  Those whose parents were in hysterics about online classes or having to mask when school was reopened (seriously, you cannot win with some of them), well the kids feed off that energy and tended to not do well either.

I get that it was harder for parents of younger kids, but it did not have to be a trauma event for most people.  How you deal with hardships in life helps you grow from it.

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