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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nope. I am still traumatized by the sleepovers I went to as a kid. Some of them had older brothers and fathers who were "weird" and creepy. I did not feel safe. One house was full of smokers and was dirty and had roaches. When I got to be a teen, it was a whole new level of trauma as my sweet "friends" knew older boys or men with cars and had us out and around town all night and we ended up in precarious situations. 
When I was a kid, my parents often sent me to sleepovers so they could go to adult parties or out on the town. I had no say in the matter.

I refuse to allow my daughters to go to sleepovers. [/quote]

As a teen I assume you chose your friends.  You chose friends who liked to hang out all night with men.  At this age you didn’t have to be friends with those kind of girls, you chose it.  How is that trauma?

Hopefully you’ve been able to provide your kids a better standard of living where homes aren’t dirty with bugs and where everyone smokes. [/quote]

Are you kidding me? The two girls who I am referrring to were nice little church girls and seemed to be so tame. I slept over the one time and I quickly learned they are Dr.Jekyll/ Mr. Hyde and their parents worked nights and left at 10 pm. I was dropped off at 6p. Once the parent left, these dudes showed up with cars and said let's roll. I was completely stunned and not prepared. I did not know what to do and was only 14 years old. I knew these girls from church and was flabbergasted as to how they were outside of church and the youth group for the other girl. Seh turned out to be a closet lesbian and tried to do devious things to me. SCARY! In both instances, I ran to a gas station for the  one who was all over towns, and I ran next door to a neighbor in the middle of the night to escape roving hands closet lesbian church girl.

Now, the roach and nasty people I had no say in the matter. They were friends of my Mom's and the MOm asked if I can sleepover and my Mom had a party to go to so she said yes.

If you had any reading comprehension you would see that I said I would absolutely never have my kids go to a sleepover. I do not even let them play at anyone's house unsupervised. And, yes, I am OCD clean and like it that way. No go bug off and evaluate someone else's trauma. [/quote]

I wouldn’t assume someone who goes to church is automatically “nice” as you wrote.  By the teen years kids have usually found like minded kids to be friends with so your surprise that your church friends liked men and now you have added one of them was a “closeted lesbian” shouldn’t have been surprising to you.

It’s not your fault your mother was friends with dirty people who filled the house with smoke.   Are you repeating the same mistakes?  If not and you live in a better neighborhood and have better friends then your kids won’t be repeating your bad experiences.    Hopefully you’re doing a better job than your parents and their church friends.  [/quote]

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