Anonymous wrote:Seriously, if your child can't do an occasional sleepover because they're so busy, then your child is overscheduled.

Anonymous wrote:Sleepovers are fine and fun. But, I can't believe ppl have such busy weeks that kids need to be picked up early or not... my childhood weekends were never this busy.

Anonymous wrote:Seriously, if your child can't do an occasional sleepover because they're so busy, then your child is overscheduled.

Anonymous wrote:Sleepovers are fine and fun. But, I can't believe ppl have such busy weeks that kids need to be picked up early or not... my childhood weekends were never this busy.

Anonymous wrote:Sleepovers are fine and fun. But, I can't believe ppl have such busy weeks that kids need to be picked up early or not... my childhood weekends were never this busy.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. I am still traumatized by the sleepovers I went to as a kid. Some of them had older brothers and fathers who were "weird" and creepy. I did not feel safe. One house was full of smokers and was dirty and had roaches. When I got to be a teen, it was a whole new level of trauma as my sweet "friends" knew older boys or men with cars and had us out and around town all night and we ended up in precarious situations.
When I was a kid, my parents often sent me to sleepovers so they could go to adult parties or out on the town. I had no say in the matter.

I refuse to allow my daughters to go to sleepovers.

As a teen I assume you chose your friends. You chose friends who liked to hang out all night with men. At this age you didn’t have to be friends with those kind of girls, you chose it. How is that trauma?

Hopefully you’ve been able to provide your kids a better standard of living where homes aren’t dirty with bugs and where everyone smokes.

Are you kidding me? The two girls who I am referrring to were nice little church girls and seemed to be so tame. I slept over the one time and I quickly learned they are Dr.Jekyll/ Mr. Hyde and their parents worked nights and left at 10 pm. I was dropped off at 6p. Once the parent left, these dudes showed up with cars and said let's roll. I was completely stunned and not prepared. I did not know what to do and was only 14 years old. I knew these girls from church and was flabbergasted as to how they were outside of church and the youth group for the other girl. Seh turned out to be a closet lesbian and tried to do devious things to me. SCARY! In both instances, I ran to a gas station for the one who was all over towns, and I ran next door to a neighbor in the middle of the night to escape roving hands closet lesbian church girl.

Now, the roach and nasty people I had no say in the matter. They were friends of my Mom's and the MOm asked if I can sleepover and my Mom had a party to go to so she said yes.

If you had any reading comprehension you would see that I said I would absolutely never have my kids go to a sleepover. I do not even let them play at anyone's house unsupervised. And, yes, I am OCD clean and like it that way. No go bug off and evaluate someone else's trauma.

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My kids are 6 and 8 (boys) and haven't been invited to sleep over yet except with their cousins, which we allow. Otherwise they've received no sleepover invitations, which is fine with me. I think they're a bit young.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH will absolutely not allow our children to sleepover anywhere, including extended family’s homes. He was raised in extremely impoverished conditions and thinks it’s such an unnecessary risk to put on your children for very little payoff.

Genuine question, not trying to be snotty. What does DH’s impoverished background have to do with his stance on sleepovers?

His childhood was spent in a bad neighborhood with a lot of crime and absent parents. He went to sleepovers and was definitely exposed to things children should not be.

What was he exposed to at sleepovers that he didn’t see in his everyday impoverished life? And if he saw bad things because he lived in a bad neighborhood what does that have to do with his children sleeping over a friend’s house?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm starting to think the people who push really hard for sleep overs are sort of nefarious. Why do you need access to other people's kids?!

No, it’s just people who remember them fondly and support that for their kids. It was a really big part of 80s/90s culture. Even my parents, who were extremely overprotective when I was a teen, let me go to basically random people’s houses for slumber parties. I would never do that. I also don’t enjoy the crabby child I need to deal with post sleepover. But I get why other parents like the idea.

I agree with this but have also found that the people who like them fall into one of two categories: parents of only children who want them to have the experience of overnights with a same-aged kid (I get this) or people with fairly low standard for supervision who see it as an opportunity to have their kids entertained and get a break. The second category I am basically never letting host my kids. I don't trust people like that to supervise adequately when kids are little like mine are now and I DEFINITELY won't trust them when their kids are old enough to sneak out and drink or hook up. The one family I am thinking of has too many kids, a mean dog, and a DH with a drinking problem. Hell no I'm not giving you overnight access to my 8 year old.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm starting to think the people who push really hard for sleep overs are sort of nefarious. Why do you need access to other people's kids?!

No, it’s just people who remember them fondly and support that for their kids. It was a really big part of 80s/90s culture. Even my parents, who were extremely overprotective when I was a teen, let me go to basically random people’s houses for slumber parties. I would never do that. I also don’t enjoy the crabby child I need to deal with post sleepover. But I get why other parents like the idea.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm starting to think the people who push really hard for sleep overs are sort of nefarious. Why do you need access to other people's kids?!

No, it’s just people who remember them fondly and support that for their kids. It was a really big part of 80s/90s culture. Even my parents, who were extremely overprotective when I was a teen, let me go to basically random people’s houses for slumber parties. I would never do that. I also don’t enjoy the crabby child I need to deal with post sleepover. But I get why other parents like the idea.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. I am still traumatized by the sleepovers I went to as a kid. Some of them had older brothers and fathers who were "weird" and creepy. I did not feel safe. One house was full of smokers and was dirty and had roaches. When I got to be a teen, it was a whole new level of trauma as my sweet "friends" knew older boys or men with cars and had us out and around town all night and we ended up in precarious situations.
When I was a kid, my parents often sent me to sleepovers so they could go to adult parties or out on the town. I had no say in the matter.

I refuse to allow my daughters to go to sleepovers.

As a teen I assume you chose your friends. You chose friends who liked to hang out all night with men. At this age you didn’t have to be friends with those kind of girls, you chose it. How is that trauma?

Hopefully you’ve been able to provide your kids a better standard of living where homes aren’t dirty with bugs and where everyone smokes.

Anonymous wrote:Curious what percentage of the “nos” are girl parents. Are people allowing boy sleepovers?

Anonymous wrote:I'm starting to think the people who push really hard for sleep overs are sort of nefarious. Why do you need access to other people's kids?!