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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Kids are not high achieving students, college tuition is so incredible high. If my kids were excellent students, involved in extracurriculars then, yes, I can see paying most of it, all if they go to a state university. Right now their cum can’t even get them in a state college.  DD has a glorified outlook she’ll go to an out of state, a not so “fancy” one says- they all cost $40k tuition nevermind lodging, foid, and transport. DH is the kind of guy that caves in…

They’re in a parochial, private high school that we are paying for with these lukewarm grades. I can’t afford more tutors.  How did you deliver the news to the kids that they have no choice? To your “princess?”
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[b]Kids become high achieving excellent students who are involved in extracurricular activities because of the nurturing home and intelligent parents who prioritize education.  You are a dud who has raised duds.[/b]  Send them to college or not send them to college, it does not matter.  Their success or failure does not concern you because you are a checked out parent. 
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I'm not the OP, but my child struggled in school no matter what we did to try to help her. I NEVER checked out. We got her the help we could and she chose whether or not to use it. We encouraged her to participate in things, and she wanted nothing to do with school clubs. The only thing she cared enough to stick with was her performing art that she did in and out of school.

I'm not claiming to be the best parent - far from it. But we busted our ass and become emotionally exhausted to help our child to the best of our ability and she didn't do great in HS. That is NOT on us - she cannot be FORCED into being a great student.[/quote]
+1 College educated parents making $300k.  Oldest child NMSF, 1560 SAT CS major. Child 2 2.6 GPA, cuts class constantly, skips practices, pothead, suicide attempts. Multiple therapists, specialized schooling etc. Numerous sleepless nights. Trying our best. [/quote]

I was the person who posted this. It really is hard when your kids are so very different. My child has ADHD, anxiety, probably other undiagnosed things. Thankfully is a pretty decent kid (no drugs, doesn’t cut or skip), she just cannot seem to pull it together to do what she needs to for school. Doesn’t turn in/complete assignments, so falls behind. We had her in avid her last two years, and I don’t think it helped her much.

I was one of those annoying students who barely had to try for good grades. I don’t understand her at all. It’s hard, very hard. I know she can do better, but she’s also just hard headed.

She is in therapy and on meds. We have given her tools. She just has to use them [/quote]

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