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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m an “anti-aftercare” poster. And a feminist. One has nothing to do with the other. Women should of course be able to work and have full lives. But infants and toddlers should also not be looked after in chaotic institutional settings by minimum-wage employees for 10 hours per day. It’s just wrong in a civilized, wealthy society. And the more anxious society gets, the more vulnerable our kids are. It’s a vicious cycle. And it all coincides with reduced standards in schools, nutrition, environment, security, etc.

I don’t know the solution but the first step in giving children a better start is for the professional classes to recognize the reality most of humankind knows. Flex hours, a few years of paid leave for both sexes, higher pay for daycare workers…all of this would be a start. But all the feminists who deny basic child development make me so upset. In my circle, most of the biggest aftercare and daycare users actually had sahms or nannies themselves.

They think because I didn’t change my name, vote for dems, married late, am an atheist etc that I agree with them. I don’t want anyone to feel judged because it’s not about them—it’s about what’s right for children.

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How are you so supposedly educated and not know about Montessori education? They have awesome afrercare too. My kids get mad if I pick them up early and they miss cooking, chess, or any of the other activities.

Also what are you rambling about with child development? Do you run a cooking class from you house after school? And is your chess game good enough to teach chess? And do you also personally teach your kids violin? Flute? What about a second language? You aren't the end all and be all for your child. To believe that is unhealthy![/quote]

Kids don’t need chess and cooking classes in elementary school.  They need a family member and a peaceful home. [/quote]

Yeah you know nothing about child development. But keep telling yourself you do.

Other people on this thread--it isn't a referendum on daycare/aftercare v sahm. Someone always makes it "about the children" when we know children do best when the parents are happy/thriving themselves. If that means a sahp in your family, go for it! If that means aftercare and camps, go for it. The problem is when we aren't true to ourselves and do what think should be done rather than what's best for our own families.

I love working. Even my worst day at work isn't as bad as staying home for me personally. Yes it is hard at times and I am tired. But it does make me a better parent in general.[/quote]

Are your kids still very young or do you have an only? I think that’s probably why you are not burned out yet like the rest of us. Talk to us when your children are done with elementary school![/quote]

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