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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m Team OP.  He’s a much more thoughtful than average DCUM poster. I agree with the posters who have pointed out that some people are huge therapy fans because it fulfills a particular need for them. That’s fine, but it doesn’t mean it’s for everyone, and it’s not particularly easy to find a great therapist.

My DH sometimes acts snappish to ragey over the everyday frustrations of life. He also, relatedly, often has trouble sleeping at night. I suggested therapy to him a couple of times when I was frustrated by his quick trigger. His response was that he knew exactly what his problem is—burnout from a highly stressful job.  Sounds right given that he’s an entirely more relaxed person on vacation and/or when the Celtics win an NBA title. I told him he should at least try yoga and sports massages, and both have made a significant positive difference.  I’ve never tried meditation, but that sounds promising too.[/quote]

OP here, I love meditating. It's not always easy, and for awhile it didn't really change anything, it was just a nice break. But I've found more recently that I can apply some of the techniques and mantras when I am starting to get stressed about something like the kids being obnoxious. The 10% Happier app is my favorite, it has a very laid back and approachable vibe. And it has some core "courses" which I find extremely helpful. It's not super crunchy—it was founded by a former ABC reporter Dan Harris who had a panic attack on air and just found himself burnt out and struggling to maintain... it's very much built on the idea that it's okay to fail at it, you're not perfect at maintaining, but it's about continuing to begin agian. And making yourself 10 percent happier, or 10 percent less of an a-hole.

It just makes a lot of sense ot me in a way that therapy doesn't. But it's not comprehensive, and it only works as well as you use it.[/quote]
Thanks. I’ll check it out. My college-aged son is studying psychology, and if he makes the recommendation, I think DH may be willing to try it. [/quote]

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