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[quote=Anonymous]05/09/2024 12:28 poster here.

We have some similarities, OP.

While I was very fortunate to have a childhood that others envied (constant trips, parties, extracurriculars, lots of "things"), there were also also negatives (death of a parent in early childhood, sexual abuse, a self-absorbed parent with likely ADHD, etc.). Therapy has helped with these.

My spouse also sounds similar -- a good person but very different from me. For a while, I even told him almost exactly what I needed him to say (basically a script) for emotional support. He liked this method, but I tired of doing it.

I often take on the caretaker role for my adult child and parents. I do set boundaries. I am also an INFJ in Myers-Briggs, an 100% introvert, get together with family often but no close friends except a couple from childhood I barely see. I'm my own best friend and am most comfortable alone. I love my family and I know they love me.

I am lucky in that I have a therapist (again, fit is vital) I can afford who "gets" me. Yes, I pay out of pocket for someone to listen to me. She is that safe space just for me. Mostly she listens, occasionally she challenges or encourages. I feel so much better -- lighter -- afterwards. Then I continue on with life's challenges until the next time I see her.

People are different. Given my personality and background, this works for me -- talking to friends/family, making new friends, etc. doesn't.

OP needs to find what works for her. [/quote]

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