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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP is not exactly a ringing endorsement of the effectiveness of therapy.[/quote]

Uh, a person who was abused and neglected as a child who becomes an adult in their 40s/50s with a functional family, with no apparent abuse or neglect in their marriage or parenting, is like the pinnacle of success from a mental health perspective. It doesn't get much better than that. So OP still struggles a bit with what was missing from her dysfunctional childhood? Thinks about it calmly and looks for solutions? Again, this is a success story.

What exactly are you looking for here?[/quote]

An adult?[/quote]

I know it's hard for some people to understand this, but clearly and calmly communicating negative emotions and experiences without blame or anger is one of the most emotionally mature, adult things you can do. Adults can have issues and struggle. Maturity is being able to deal with those things in a rational, productive way, instead of ignoring or suppressing and having them come out in other, dysfunctional ways.[/quote]

But there is blame and anger, for the parents and for anyone else who isn't "caring". Solution is to stop looking for care and measuring how much care you give others. [/quote]

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