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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Because it's ALL. SO. MUCH.

I feel bad (ish) sometimes, but I am just not able to be one of those moms that brings snacks. I have a full time job, other kids at other schools (all of whom have way play on teams that also have this insane snack culture). I thought it would have ended for my older two by now (8th and 6th) but nope!

Here's the thing - I think the food parents get joy/meaning/purpose out of this. There is no reason to feed the entire baseball team dinner after every game, and yet two or three parents consistently do this. I'm not buying into it.

But yes to the suggestion I've seen here in many posts - happy to chip in some $$, just do not have the mental space to add this on top of everything else.[/quote]

Just want to co-sign "it's ALL. SO. MUCH."

If I was asked to do a normal/reasonable amount of volunteering and contributing, I would do it all without complaining. I actually do think it's good to be involved with the school, I am very appreciative of teachers and staff, I want all the kids to feel supported by the community. But there is simply no limit to what you are asked to do. I receive at least one request for donations or volunteering every week. During busy times of the year, it's more than that. This is on top all the other stuff you do as a parent. Oh yeah, and I have a job.

You have to draw the line somewhere, and when people bow out of certain things, I think that's why. Does every parent at the school volunteer to chaperone every field trip? No. Does every single family donate hundreds or thousands at the holiday drive? No. Is everyone contributing to the bake sale? Volunteering to help with the musical? Showing up to career day? And so on. Of course not.

For me, the goal is not to freeload -- I do feel I need to do something. I try to choose a combination of stuff I actually like to do AND stuff that I know they really need help with. But I don't do everything. And the expectation that I do everything is not reasonable. I would say I'm doing some kind of volunteer activity with school or an extra-curricular once a month. That feels about right to me.[/quote]

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