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Anonymous wrote:Because it’s not needed.

But the other moms say it is!

Then they’re welcome to do it.

Oh, okay. I will cover for you since you are so busy. It takes a village!

(And yes, I am 100% being sarcastic)

Not busy at all. I just don't think it's needed and won't contribute.

I am the person you are quoting, you misread my sarcasm. I am completely on your side. i am just parodying the mother at our school who always "covers" for me when I have zero need for it. Neither does my kid. But SHE needs to feel superior/needed and does it under the guise of being a "helper" Or maybe she doesn't realize she is not helping and doesn;'t have a superiority complex, but it's a waste of my time for sure

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Anonymous wrote:You moms are so over the top with your KIDS DON’T NEED SNACKS 24/7.

I feel bad for your kids.

So you're saying kids need snacks 24/7? Literally snacks all the time, no time without snacks?

Yes, that’s what she said. /s

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Anonymous wrote:Lots of disordered eating kids being raised. Sometimes a snack is ok.

+1 Was thinking the same. The children of these parents end up eating snacks in secret.

No, they learn to eat good food when they’re hungry, not mindlessly stuff their faces with corn like a farm animal because someone has put a bag in front of them. It’s really disgusting if you think about it for more than a minute.

My kid's 4th grade class has an "unlimited snacks" policy, allowing kids to snack at any time in class, and they ask parents to bring in class snacks multiple times per month. Her friend who is restricted from junk at home regularly eats 3 bags of chips per day in class. My kid who is allowed Doritos and things on occasion doesn't even care for the snacks because she's not hungry in between her meals. It is always the kids who are restricted who eat the most junk when they get access.

That story doesn't make sense because the idea of a classroom with an "unlimited snacks" policy, where the snacks are Doritos is insane. And if that kid is eating 3 bags of chips daily at school, then by your logic, wouldn't they eventually STOP eating those chips because now they have access to them? Or at least moderate. But they don't, do they? Perhaps that kid is the sort who will never be content with occasional junk food, and binges on it as long as it's available.

My kid gets occasional junk food at home and if she was offered unlimited junk food at school, would gorge on it daily. Junk food is designed specifically to make people do that.

What if, crazy idea I know, we didn't offer Doritos (which have absolutely no nutritional value) as a snack at school?

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Anonymous wrote:Lots of disordered eating kids being raised. Sometimes a snack is ok.

+1 Was thinking the same. The children of these parents end up eating snacks in secret.

No, they learn to eat good food when they’re hungry, not mindlessly stuff their faces with corn like a farm animal because someone has put a bag in front of them. It’s really disgusting if you think about it for more than a minute.

My kid's 4th grade class has an "unlimited snacks" policy, allowing kids to snack at any time in class, and they ask parents to bring in class snacks multiple times per month. Her friend who is restricted from junk at home regularly eats 3 bags of chips per day in class. My kid who is allowed Doritos and things on occasion doesn't even care for the snacks because she's not hungry in between her meals. It is always the kids who are restricted who eat the most junk when they get access.

Anonymous wrote:Have you thought about the fact that it’s a pain in the butt to drop off a snack for an after school activity? Like I don’t want my kid to carry around snacks and juice boxes in their backpack and I don’t want to drop something off at dismissal time when the whole reason my kid is doing your after school class is so I can get a break one afternoon a week. Also why should I have to feed other people’s kids. Why can’t we all just pack our own kids snacks? You say it’s all wealthy families, so it’s not like we’re helping out kids who otherwise wouldn’t get snacks.

this. My kid doesn't even eat most of the snacks I'm required to bring in.

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Anonymous wrote:Lots of disordered eating kids being raised. Sometimes a snack is ok.

+1 Was thinking the same. The children of these parents end up eating snacks in secret.

No, they learn to eat good food when they’re hungry, not mindlessly stuff their faces with corn like a farm animal because someone has put a bag in front of them. It’s really disgusting if you think about it for more than a minute.

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Anonymous wrote:Lots of disordered eating kids being raised. Sometimes a snack is ok.

+1 Was thinking the same. The children of these parents end up eating snacks in secret.

And our kids eat plenty of snacks at home that we provide. They don’t need your garbage junky snacks after school.

Disordered eating is thinking you have to have food in your belly at all times, even if it’s total crap that’s detrimental to your health.

Anonymous wrote:Lots of disordered eating kids being raised. Sometimes a snack is ok.

+1 Was thinking the same. The children of these parents end up eating snacks in secret.

Have you thought about the fact that it’s a pain in the butt to drop off a snack for an after school activity? Like I don’t want my kid to carry around snacks and juice boxes in their backpack and I don’t want to drop something off at dismissal time when the whole reason my kid is doing your after school class is so I can get a break one afternoon a week. Also why should I have to feed other people’s kids. Why can’t we all just pack our own kids snacks? You say it’s all wealthy families, so it’s not like we’re helping out kids who otherwise wouldn’t get snacks.

Is this about boy/Girl Scouts or clubs or something like that? My daughter’s Girl Scout tried this the first year but there were so many allergies and other food restrictions that they ended up just asking parents to make sure they packed an extra snack on meeting days. It’s so much easier that way.

Anonymous wrote:Because it's ALL. SO. MUCH.

I feel bad (ish) sometimes, but I am just not able to be one of those moms that brings snacks. I have a full time job, other kids at other schools (all of whom have way play on teams that also have this insane snack culture). I thought it would have ended for my older two by now (8th and 6th) but nope!

Here's the thing - I think the food parents get joy/meaning/purpose out of this. There is no reason to feed the entire baseball team dinner after every game, and yet two or three parents consistently do this. I'm not buying into it.

But yes to the suggestion I've seen here in many posts - happy to chip in some $$, just do not have the mental space to add this on top of everything else.

Just want to co-sign "it's ALL. SO. MUCH."

If I was asked to do a normal/reasonable amount of volunteering and contributing, I would do it all without complaining. I actually do think it's good to be involved with the school, I am very appreciative of teachers and staff, I want all the kids to feel supported by the community. But there is simply no limit to what you are asked to do. I receive at least one request for donations or volunteering every week. During busy times of the year, it's more than that. This is on top all the other stuff you do as a parent. Oh yeah, and I have a job.

You have to draw the line somewhere, and when people bow out of certain things, I think that's why. Does every parent at the school volunteer to chaperone every field trip? No. Does every single family donate hundreds or thousands at the holiday drive? No. Is everyone contributing to the bake sale? Volunteering to help with the musical? Showing up to career day? And so on. Of course not.

For me, the goal is not to freeload -- I do feel I need to do something. I try to choose a combination of stuff I actually like to do AND stuff that I know they really need help with. But I don't do everything. And the expectation that I do everything is not reasonable. I would say I'm doing some kind of volunteer activity with school or an extra-curricular once a month. That feels about right to me.

Because it's ALL. SO. MUCH.

I feel bad (ish) sometimes, but I am just not able to be one of those moms that brings snacks. I have a full time job, other kids at other schools (all of whom have way play on teams that also have this insane snack culture). I thought it would have ended for my older two by now (8th and 6th) but nope!

Here's the thing - I think the food parents get joy/meaning/purpose out of this. There is no reason to feed the entire baseball team dinner after every game, and yet two or three parents consistently do this. I'm not buying into it.

But yes to the suggestion I've seen here in many posts - happy to chip in some $$, just do not have the mental space to add this on top of everything else.

Anonymous wrote:You moms are so over the top with your KIDS DON’T NEED SNACKS 24/7.

I feel bad for your kids.

So you're saying kids need snacks 24/7? Literally snacks all the time, no time without snacks?

Anonymous wrote:We can’t afford to. And my work hours don’t line up with all the daytime pta volunteer stuff. We don’t all work from home.

The time it takes you to post here can be used to plan ahead for your child and his/her classroom.

You moms are so over the top with your KIDS DON’T NEED SNACKS 24/7.

I feel bad for your kids.