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[quote=Anonymous]Maybe some kids whose lives center on recess-friendly team sports as a form of social engineering directly or indirectly learn to equate success with competing and winning.   Maybe they didn’t put in twenty minutes of reading each night in earlier grades because they had two different practices or games etc. maybe their parent guided the math too closely in the interest of time. The kid who did read and learned from the mistakes he made on the math homework happens to know something at school that the other kid who equates success with winning doesn’t. That kid’s self-image is potentially taking a hit because they’ve lost a lot of ground over the years by spending most of their time committed to team sports. They can’t make it up on the spot, so they make fun of the kid who knows the answer. If the kid being mocked for having nurtured a skill over time is a flexible thinker, they might even recognize this is what’s going on and don’t want to hurt the other kid’s feelings so they look like a doormat. The dynamic changes during high school as both kids mature and expectations and social capital shift.

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