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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is totally unreasonable for them to ask. If I regularly give a person a ride in my car then I have plans to go out of town for a couple of weeks , it isn’t reasonable the person asks to borrow my car. They can go get a rental car.

Your house is an asset and you can rent it for probably $1000 for a spring weekend. Friends wouldn’t ask for a $1000 so why do they think it is ok to use something worth $1000.

It is a slippery slope. Once you say yes these friends will continue to pester you. Just say it is being rented off the books 📚 n case they can see the online schedule of when it is rented through a booking agency. [/quote]

this is really good advice, thank you.
I think some ppl just assume being someone has a second home, they can afford that 1000 hit. These ppl know us well enough to know we cannot. Although we enjoy it, often with them, it is a business, and someone must pay the utilities, cable, internet, etc.
I suppose that's why it feels funny to us. 
It could also be booked at the last minute, and has before. [/quote]

People who are saying just let them stay obviously do not have investment homes or are wealthy enough that they would never sweat it if the friends caused damage to the property or they had to give up a last minute booking.

Eventually if you do let them stay you absolutely will be pressured to keep doing it and it will get more awkward. Instead of being grateful friends like this will be resentful because in their mind you will end up being the scrooge because you once let them stay and now you don't. It may also cause issues because what if something happens while they are there and the next weekend you go and find something broken, stained, etc.

The other possibility is that if they are using the house and not renting the house and you aren't there if there is an accident like they slip on your deck or patio, their insurance will try to sue your home/rental insurance. But if they didn't rent the house then rental insurance wouldn't be valid. They might not want to sue you but literally every time a family member has gone to the ER with something that could have been from an accident like a broken arm, a concussion, a sprained foot we get a letter from our insurance company wanting more information and they specifically ask where the accident happened.

Really though the absolute main reason why you should say no is that this situation it is causing you STRESS, which isn't fair to you.

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Good points!
Although interestingly enough, the husband is our insurance agent for this property. 
A few of you have mentioned we invited them. We did. But not for this weekend. A weekend two weeks ago where we had it blocked off for our use. 
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DP here.  It doesn't matter if their husband is the Queen of England, the PP's points are valid.  Plus, haven't you seen (or stated yourself), if there is an incident or damage, the response by the renter is something like: "oh they won't notice that" (meaning the owner).  The owner, of course, notices any changes in the property and it becomes a bad situation, all around.  Better to avoid and have control of your own property, for this reason.  Even the most laid back friends I have with second homes do not let others use it, for this reason, or a variation thereof.  People do not always treat lent property as their own. Plus, people in general can be lazy slobs. Not everyone was raised like you were. [/quote]

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