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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh wow I thought it was only me!  I was away over Thanksgiving and called my brother’s house where the family was gathered. I’m the only girl child. I asked to speak with mom. When my brother said “It’s your daughter,” my mom said “[Sister in law’s name]?”  He said no, your other daughter. She then said “Oh” and seems very disappointed.

That’ll teach me to be away at Thanksgiving![/quote]

This reminds me of my MIL who is as bad as my mother. When my MIL put me on a pedestal I remember she said "You are the daughter I always wanted" which was such a red flag to me because she had a daughter. I knew from then on to have major boundaries and boy was she cray.

My mom pulls this when she is struggling with her mood-depression/anger/anxiety and sadly what makes her feel best is to create drama or try to make others feel bad. The rare time life is going perfect-she was retired (barely worked before that), traveling with dad, no family stress, no demands, getting massages, manicures and regular hair appointments and ladies lunches-she was surprisingly nice and easy to take. The rare time she gets therapy and takes her meds consistently, she decent too. It really enrages her that I won't fall for the favorite surrogate daughter shtick anymore because I have too much going on to care.  [/quote]

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