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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Tell your dd to “trust the process” and never limit herself when accepting invites for the next night (if she gets 4 invites for a 4 party night she should accept them all and not just the 2 she really wants). [/quote]

“Trust the process” is the biggest crock of BS.  It’s a $hit show for everyone and unless you know girls currently IN the houses, set your expectations very, very low.  If you wouldn’t be happy joining the least desirable house, don’t rush. [/quote]

[b]well my DD had a very tough rush. Was a legacy at one house and on a rush crush list for another one that she had a friend from childhood in. Ended up being cut by almost all, including those two, after the first round. Had only her bottom ranked houses left, including one that she actually liked but was considered a "lower-middle tier" house that she had never heard of prior. [/b]Was VERY hard to tell her to "trust the process" having been cut for seemingly no reason but she did stay in rush and ended up at that one house that she liked. Two years later, she still wonders if it's the right place though she has a solid group of friends, she has not necessarily found "her home".

It's a brutal process and yes the girls need to be flexible on where they go, and realize that they can always drop before initiation if they don't like it, and rush again.

She is in rush now and tells me how girls come in and say "i don't need to be here" and give one word answers to her questions because they are not interested in the house. It's so rude and disappointing how some of us have raised our daughters.   Those girls might find themselves with no options so the message is to always be polite and respectful no matter where you see yourself.

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So this is one of the biggest problems that many girls will face. They really value have a popular house and can't fathom how they could be cut. This is generally girls who were popular and pretty in their high school and this is the first time they are being "rejected". I can understand how it must feel to them.

Yet even if a girl lands in the most popular house, by the time they are in their junior year they are drifting away or should be drifting away from the sorority life as the mature and get ready to move on. They stop being quite as vested in the politics and gossip and spend less and less time with new pledges. It's always tough to get seniors to attend events and stay involved. This is a universal issue no matter if it's a SEC school or otherwise. It's a natural progression that should happen.

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This is true. I was actually in one of the popular houses ("back in the day") at my college - something that matters not even a little once I left college. I pledged as a Soph and by Senior year I was seriously over it. LOL. Was always in trouble for not going to things but you have far less tolerance for "mandatory" teas and social events, and meetings of every stripe (on top of chapter meetings) by the time you're nearing 22 years old and heading to the real world or to grad school,. [/quote]

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