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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, it might be that you are working to create the family you always imaginesd, rather than accepting the family you have. Perhaps. You are trying for 2 ordinary children rather than accepting that your 2 current children will be ordinary-enough.[/quote]
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Op has 2 kids but wishes they were 2 NT kids. [/quote]

Also, who wishes any sort of difficulty on their children? Yah, if I could take away my child’s developmental disability and the struggles it causes them in life and their relationships, I would. Your shaming is ridiculous. [/quote]

OP, I am sorry people are saying these rude things to you. People without a SN child cannot know what it is and can be very judgmental and harsh. I have been where you sit and thought about a third for very similar reasons. We ended up not going for it, and I am happy with our choice. [/quote]

Thanks. Can I ask why you’re happy and don’t regret it?[/quote]

Sure. When we were in the earlier stages of figuring out my younger DC's special needs, I had a very hard time on a day to day basis with all of it.. worried constantly about his future, what we were doing to my other DC's life by being so stressed about this, what our family life was going to be like, will he ever be able to have a conversation (he had a very significant language delay). I felt like having another child might give my other DC the best chance at having a "normal" sibling relationship. I will probably get flamed for that but it was a very real feeling and consideration at the time. We have since gotten him on meds and have gotten some more specific therapy and he is doing so much better. In the meantime, they are both in elementary and we are very busy running around to activities and supporting their education. We both work full time and go into the office 3-4 days a week so there is no way we could juggle it all and be the parents we want to be with three kids. Travel is easier with four people (and it is easier now that he is doing better!) and we have more money to throw at private speech and OT for him than we would if we were also dealing with a toddler and daycare. And, as he has grown and developed along his own curve, his relationship with our older DC has become really great. [/quote]

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