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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don’t need to be 21 to buy condoms. Using condoms can’t kill someone if you get behind the wheel. Stop comparing apples to oranges. [/quote]

If they’re not mature enough to get their own condoms. Whether that be from the counselors office at school, or asking for a store employee to unlock the antitheft case and then have the cashier ring them up—then they’re not mature enough for sex.[/quote]

[b]No one decides to have sex because of condom availability,[/b] if that’s what you’re trying to say. They have sex because they want to, and if condoms are readily available, they have safer sex. That mom is doing nothing wrong by having them on offer. [/quote]

actually, they do. you send the message to you kids that is ok for your them to have sex. presumably this is the message you want to send. but don't pretend boxes of condoms have no implications.[/quote]
Teens who receive straightforward sex ed and have access to BC are less likely to be sexually active than teens who have abstinence focused sex ed and lack access to BC.[/quote]

Straightforward sex ed is fine

and condoms are widely available at every single grocery store, drug store, gas station, etc.

But that doesn’t mean you [i]buy your kid[/i] condoms—

which unlike hormonal BC are [i]only[/i] used while having sex/being sexually active.

But no, sorry. Not going to make it easy for them. If they wanna have sex like an adult they can buy their own condoms like an adult and find somewhere other than their parent’s house—like an adult.

Otherwise they risk ruining their lives by becoming a teen parent—I will NOT be taking care of a grandchild birthed by my teenage child. And if I caught my kid going behind my back to have sex you can be sure all privileges (car, car insurance, cell phone, etc) will be lost as well. You wanna do adult things? Okay, well that doesn’t mean just the fun stuff, be prepared to pay for all the stuff I’m not legally required to pay for (i.e. you will be provided shelter and food).

This is not hard, and you can still have a wonderful parent-child relationship (I do with my parents who took the same approach with sexual activity and dating in high school).

It’s simply called: being willing to be a parent instead of trying to be your teenager’s bff.

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Oh, I parented. We talked a lot and I shared my perspective and belief that waiting [time I think is right which is different for different families] is best and why. I also was honest- people have sex because it feels good, for what feels like acceptance, HOWEVER- these are the danger… Only trying to scare them is ineffective. You have to acknowledge the things that they perceive as positive drives.

We started talking early. I always wanted them to feel comfortable coming to me and hopefully get information from me rather than peers. I made it clear that I would never condemn or judge them for any question and as they got older, yes BC was available. I have one still at home. I believe all my olders waited.

Also, it’s not just about dating. Having a large family I’ve watched a huge culture shift into hook up culture. There are so few boyfriend girlfriend relationships anymore. This is definitely changed how I talk to my younger kids now and I did with my oldere who are mid 20s now.[/quote]

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