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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DC's top choice college was a "lessor" school in a particular group - think Cornell vs. Harvard or Connecticut College vs. Amherst, or Nebraska vs. Northwestern, something like that. They were accepted and are THRILLED beyond words, but more than one family member and friend has said some really nasty things to us about the acceptance. We're incredibly proud and trying to gracefully deflect the comments, but people are digging in their heels and saying the equivalent of, "Well, what about Harvard? It's not too late to apply, you know."

Could use some specific wording here. "This school is perfect for them, and we're very proud of their achievement" isn't shutting them down.[/quote]

As I get older, I try more and more to follow the advice of a dear friend: "Smile, nod, and wave." You don't have to engage, apologize, or explain. It's probably not worth causing long-term problems with friends and family members by confronting them. If they don't want to support your DC's choice or respect your explanations, what more can you do? You've done your best in letting them know you're happy with the situation and why. I suggest you shrug it off, disengage, and remain on friendly terms, although you might give yourself a little distance from them until they stop trying to force their own preferences down your throat.

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