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There is no way my husband, or any of our friends, or myself, would ever recommend a family member to a job that we thought were beyond them. It's JUST NOT DONE. You're absolutely correct not to push a professional into ethically-dicey territory. [b]Your husband can do whatever he thinks fit,[/b] which should include interview and resume help.

I don't know why posters are giving you a hard time, OP. Maybe it's just one or two trolls spamming the thread repeatedly with their nepotism.

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Not if she never tells him that the kid is looking for help, he can't.  Posters are giving her a hard time because she's refusing to even pass the message to her husband, even though 1) she's in no position to judge who is or isn't qualified, and 2) her husband has demonstrated comfort in the past with recommending young people for consideration.  She's subsituting her judgment for his, not protecting him from ethical gray areas.[/quote]

Nonsense. The nephew should be asking her husband directly. His parents are asking OP because they know he's not fit for the job and don't dare ask the professional in question. In the circumstances, it is beyond rude to ask OP to relay such things to her husband. She can exercise her judgment and choose to shield him from the pressures of ethically-challenged in-laws. You're all on other threads ranting about how each spouse should deal with their own family. The same applies here. If they're that desperate, they can ask him directly.

Finally, one extremely important point: there is her husband's credibility to consider, and frankly to prioritize. If he wants to be respected in his professional milieu, his word should carry weight. He CANNOT be seen to angle for posts for incompetent relatives. This is how reputations built on years of hard work and probity get destroyed in the blink of an eye.

So no. None of that nonsense. There is a huge difference between networking and recommendations for deserving individuals, whether or not they are family, and pushing relatives into jobs they aren't good for.

OP is perfectly right, and all of you idiots criticizing her are complete and utter morons with no understanding whatsoever of workplace ethics.

Seriously. You should be ashamed of yourselves.

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OP, sock puppeting is embarrassing.  [/quote]

I am not OP and Jeff can confirm that if you ask him.
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