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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am surprised by how few people have had OP's experience. I certainly have. I also think that it's worse I you don't fit into certain boxes. Like if you are 45 with 2 kids and you're a SAHM with a high earning spouse who does barre classes twice a week and is in good shape and can afford expensive, brand-conscious clothes, you won't feel invisible.

But if you are 45 and single and working a mid-level corporate job, you are going to feel invisible. And that's with or without kids, actually -- no one really cares either way. You don't fit into a box that people want to celebrate, even if you make a good salary and are an interesting person. I do think people tend to look right past someone like this.

It's not just men, either. It's everyone under the age of 30. I think we remind them of their mothers so they avoid us. Men this age remind them of their fathers but they don't ignore them. It's interesting.

It's not the worst thing in the world (I'm not going to bars trying to get attention anymore), but it can be frustrating when you are trying to get basic customer service. I also had the experience of the place next door being bought by a pair of 20 somethings and being surprised at how dismissive and condescending they were towards me, and then realizing they see me as some sad, old woman because I'm in my 40s and unmarried. It was kind of shocking to realize as I don't see myself that way at all.[/quote]

We had a 40s year old in my last office and she was going on dates. She was outspoken and interesting. The director tried to treat us to pizza as a reward for our milestone and she shut that down and told them to take us out because not everybody in here is a child. Loved her.[/quote]

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