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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It depends how much savings you have. I would set a goal to work towards, say $5M in savings. Then stop working once you reach that goal. It's better to first get financially set then stop working, rather than stop now with some vague idea of reentering the workforce as a middle-aged unemployed SAHM if something happens to your spouse's job.

It sounds like your husband has only had the high paying job for a few years now and it's not guaranteed forever. Plus you don't hate your job. So wait until you have enough savings to comfortably stop working with financial security.

I'll add another perspective. My dad was a very high earner. My mom insisted on working anyway and life was very stressful at home. I was scared to say I was sick because I knew that she'd get angry about having to miss work. She deeply resented anything that pulled her away from her work or eventual grad school. She and my dad fought about her continuing to work and refusing to take on any kid and household responsibilities. We had a FT housekeeper, so no one was asking her to do cleaning etc. [b]To me and my sister, it felt like she selfishly prioritized her personal preferences over the welfare of her children and family.[/b]

It sounds like you're a much better mom. But there's just no way around the fact that someone earning $725K generally needs a default parent spouse. That means that kid and home stuff will always be your domain. It's very difficult to balance that with your own FT job.

Good luck whatever you decide.

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Funny how no one ever says this about dads who want to work FT  :roll:  GTFO here with that sexist bullsh*t[/quote]

You can live in la la land with your progressive ideals, or you can live in the real world where men still outearn women and women do more of the work for children and home even if they also work FT. [/quote]

DP. And you can own that you were called out for blaming your mom for doing exactly what your father did. I’m with the PP on this - hold them both responsible, not just your mom. [/quote]

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