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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe your husband isn't interested in living close to your family?[/quote]

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If you read the OP carefully, there’s a strong implication that her only solution to her unhappiness is to move closer to her family.  So that’s a very different kettle of fish than “my husband doesn’t want to move” and “I hate it here.”

How many husbands are there who won’t see this as “I will be miserable anywhere in the world except close to my hometown” and “living close to my family but much farther away from your family” is what is being demanded.

When people can only see themselves as finding happiness by moving to their hometown, that means their unhappiness is not caused by where they live, but by their inability to embrace the positives of their current location.

I bet those of us on DCUM (wherever we live now) who grew up in the DMV (admittedly a skewed sample) tend to view the DMV as a great place to have grown up in.  [/quote]

This is an interesting perspective. I moved around a lot as a kid and my parents now live in a different state than where I grew up. So I don’t really have a “home town” to compare to. I really like this area despite some of the drawbacks and I think it’s actually hard to find a lot of the pros of where we live in other cities with plentiful jobs.

For me, being north of here is a dealbreaker. DC winters are as cold as I can manage. I don’t want to be anywhere too politically conservative or with total lack of diversity (even as a white person I don’t want to be in some all white town). I want access to good transit (we are in a walkable suburb now). I want city amenities like museums, concerts, shows, and varied restaurant options. So where else does that leave that isn’t just as expensive as the DC area?

If you like smaller town life though then I can 100% see how paying a premium for all the above wouldn’t appeal to you. And if you really want a big house.

I’m okay raising my kids in a smaller home in a denser area if it means being in an area with lots of interesting things to do. I would not want to pay 8% interest though to live in generic housing stock in an exurb and then sit in traffic. That does sound awful. [/quote]

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