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[quote=Anonymous]Military dependent here. To me this isn't a close call. This is 2023, and we have cell phones, FaceTime, free long-distance calls, all the things that make staying connected infinitely easier than when I grew up with a USMC officer dad who had to take unaccompanied tours (including to Vietnam) every five years when I was young. Even when we were stationed together, he traveled extremely frequently. We managed to stay connected to our dad regardless. Especially in this day and age, it will not be hard for your DD to stay close to her dad if she stays and he deploys to his next duty station just for a year.

My parents were faced with a similar situation; after I'd been at a DODDS school in the UK for sophomore and junior years, with my sister one year behind me, my father was faced with potential orders to a base in Germany. It would have killed me as a military brat -- used to moving across the country, and across the world -- to have to move senior year. There is a huge difference between moving in elementary or middle school (and I know, because I did) and moving in high school. Teens are not little kids and their connections to friends are so much more important.

Do not underestimate how stressful and how hard it is first semester senior year to manage the college application process. On top of having to move and make new friends and adjust to a new school system -- and especially going from private to public, and we don't know what the quality of her private school has been compared to the quality of the public school she might go to. Her mental/social/emotional health have got to be paramount here.

The question of which university she will attend is separate. You need to sit down and have a realistic discussion of what you'll be able to afford. Also, keeping her grades and scores high (which would be easier if she stays in the school she's in now) may enable her to get merit aid at places that offer a discount off the sticker price for high-scoring kids. Look up Jeffrey Selingo's website and look at both privates and publics that offer scholarship aid. She cannot get attached to a dream school and needs to realize there are many options other than the Dream Flagship.[/quote]

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