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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]His CRIPPLING ADHD. He can’t handle *anything* without a million reminders and I had to leave my very lucrative career to stay married/manage our life.

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ADHD here, too.

My career was far more established and successful when we started our relationship, but my DH’s ADHD crippled our family life after kids to the extent that it was a choice between giving up my career vs. getting divorce + taking full custody. If I had living family I would have chosen the latter.

I would do anything to protect my kids and am glad I did, but unfortunately DH and the kids are the ones who benefit from this decision and I’ve sacrificed what I thought were non-negotiables.[/quote]

NP.  These posts really resonated with me.  I wish I knew you both in real life. I love my DH and he's a good person.  Yet, if I knew back then what I know now, I don't know that I would have married him.  The first few years were great but as our lives became more complicated, it all fell apart.  I, too, have accepted what I never thought I would.  To top everything off, DH has ED because of his refusal to treat a medical condition and it's permanently damaged his cardiovascular system to the point we can no longer have PIV.  None of the interventions for it have been successful.

My kids are now young adults and doing pretty well but 2 of them have ADHD - one of whom is so very like DH that I worry about the challenges his partners will have despite my best efforts to help him understand the impact of his actions (or lack thereof). For one of my kids without ADHD, I worry they'll be 'overly responsible' like I've been.  Ugh. [/quote]

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