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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I teach kids and they can be cruel and mean to one another for many reasons, none of which are fair. [b]But as a parent, it is your job to make your child likeable! [/b]Are they cheerful, generous, kind, funny, dressed nicely, listen to adults? If any of those things still need to be worked on, work on those! Parents have this notion that everyone needs to be included and the truth is that only works until kids are old enough to choose their own friendships. Hopefully you don’t waste your time complaining about mean moms and help your child become someone other kids want to be with and other parents love having around their kids.
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As the parent of a child with ASD and ADHD, this literally ruined my morning.  We've done everything (therapy, social skills classes, medication) and he's not a neurotypical person, and thus, less likable to many.  He does listen to adults, and can be generous and funny and kind at times, but can't do them consistently.  Nor is he generally especially cheerful or nicely dressed (due to sensory issues).[/quote]

This shouldn’t ruin your morning.  That is one parent’s perspective.   I agree with the PP mostly.  This notion that everyone should be included in everything is bananas and needs to stop.  I certainly don’t teach it to my kids.  I teach them to be kind to everyone, but I will not burden them with feeling like they need to include as many people as possible in all plans always.  Likewise, they don’t seem at all bothered when they aren’t invited to something.  That is a normal part of life.  Maybe it is personal, maybe it isn’t.  You never know the circumstances and it doesn’t really matter why.

As for your child is ASD/ADHD.  PP’s child likely isn’t going to be his best friend, and that is fine.  He will find his people and they will probably be similar to him and their parents will value your son and his friendship, quirks and all. 
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