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[quote=Anonymous]OP - another perspective here:

DC is objectively a way crappier place than many other places in the US.  It's totally reasonable that people aren't happy in DC.  The people I know who are satisfied living in DC either have long family roots there, or they love their jobs - but for the latter category, they don't actually enjoy the rest of their lives. They just go through those motions to get to really love their jobs.  I get that; I have a job that I love and provides me a lot of fulfillment.  But I don't know anyone in DC who is jazzed about what day to day life is like, outside of their jobs.

If I were you, I would at least open myself to the possibility of living somewhere else.

In 2023, there are a lot of jobs with remote possibilities.  There are also real jobs in other mid-sized cities.  I'm a biglaw lawyer, and many of my clients work in places like St Louis or Asheville. And they're only in the office for 2 days a week, so they live an hour from work in super rural settings. Stuff that's not possible in DC.  If you work in the White House or capital hill, then yeah I get that you can't leave the DC area.  But if you're a power lawyer, a lobbyist, a non-profit worker, a project manager.... you can potentially find other comparably satisfying roles elsewhere in the US.

I have a friend whose DH wanted them to move to an undeveloped country in South Asia for his job. She was a US trained lawyer and would literally be unable to work in her field there.  That was dick of him to even ask.  But here... there are possibly jobs you could find.

I would at least be open to the possibility.  Because you may find that you're all a lot happier in a more rural or low key place (I don't know anyone who ever left DC for somewhere better and regretted it).  And you may be able to balance your career too.  [/quote]

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