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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Mom and brother and I had been talking for an year or so about a trip to Ireland to celebrate my mom’s 75th. Today I brought it up with my mom, asking if she’s still into going.

She sheepishly admitted that brother had kind of wanted it to be alone time with just them. But I can come along for a couple of days.

I am absolutely gutted. I thought my brother and I were close. They are very similar personality types—very cool and hip people. Im more of an introvert. But I thought they liked me.

I tried to just play like I was fine with that idea. It’ll be fun to join you for a couple of days!

But I am crushed. Feeling unloved and like I don’t really know who these people are.

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You should still take the trip and go off by yourself or take someone with you. There's a lot to do and see in Ireland and you can set your own itinerary.[/quote]

Np. Personally, I wouldn't do that.  I would tell my mom that you felt that you would be crowding them and felt no longer welcome.  I would go with my family at another time.

Sorry, op![/quote]

I agree but one bit of advice. Don't tell them you "no longer feel welcome." Even though it's true, don't word it that way. They won't acknowledge how you feel. Instead, they will brush you off by saying "oh, but you ARE welcome. We told you we'd like to spend a couple of days with you, so don't blame us if you don't feel welcome."

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