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[quote=Anonymous]Hi, I'm the OP of the recent rattlesnake thread. OP, what you described reminds me of what I experience:

Step 1: I do something that is totally normal and unremarkable. 
Step 2: DH perceives it as a slight to him personally, and gets mad at me.

I don't bother discussing the specifics with him, that would just lead to a lecture on how whatever it was MY fault. And: "Oh, by the way DW, while we're discussing our relationship, I've got all these grievances against you." My coping strategy is to just ignore his behavior and move on as if nothing had happened. And look for sources of joy, support, and happiness from family, friends, work, and hobbies. Sad, but true.

In my case, my husband is pretty chill about household chores - he wouldn't be the one to complain about dishes left out. But your situation is no more about the merits of leaving dishes on a counter than my post the other day was about how to park in a parking garage.

Because this is today's issue. Tomorrow's issue will be totally different. It's exhausting.
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