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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you have already devoted way more time to thinking about this than it requires. We get it, you made all the perfect choices and now have the perfect work/life balance, so no one is allowed to complain because they too could have made those choices but they didn’t, so screw them.

These complainers are just making small talk at the bus stop, commiserating with other lawyers. Just smile and nod and change the subject or find some non lawyers to chat with. Or make a statement about how the complaining is driving you nuts and making you feel bad about your lower salary.  I couldn’t hack it in Big Law and quit and am now a SAHM. People complain to me about long hours when they have the job that I wanted. That’s life!

People complain ALL the time about things that are within their capacity to change. A friend today was complaining how exhausting summer swim team is and it’s such a pain to get her kids to the pool every day and it’s too competitive and the coach is a jerk etc. She could easily pull her kids or switch pools or hire someone to do the driving or whatever. But she doesn’t want that, she just wants someone to agree that swim team is terrible and then I will take a turn venting about how hard I am working to organize an end of the year party for my kid, even though I volunteered for this! [/quote]

I get your point that it's important to show empathy... no toxic positivity... etc. On the other hand, there are people who are fundamentally negative and complain out of habit. Why should we enable those people?

And there's no such thing as a perfect choice, there are always tradeoffs[/quote]

The perfect choice is show some grace and stop being so judgmental and harsh to people you’re pretending are your friends. [/quote]

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