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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What "stories" did I change in this thread? None.

I have no friends or family in my city where I currently live. That's the truth. I do have friends and family in my hometown. These are people I went to grade school, high school, and college with. Are they "friends" where I can just call them up and hang out with them? Not really.

Some of you posting on here are so vested in making me, as the OP, out to be "wrong." What if neither I nor my sister are actually wrong? It doesn't help the fact that I reach out to her, she refuses to speak. LoL. I apologize, she doesn't accept. Did I murder someone? Was I an addict for years in recovery, who stole from my family and who doesn't remember events? No. Is there an actual record of how I was there for both my parents when they needed me? Yes. Was I there for my sister at her major life events? Yes. [/quote]

NP. Hi OP, I have no reason to doubt your version of events.
I know someone who is similar.

She is 70 years old and she has 3 siblings - 2 sisters, 1 brother. She bears grudges about things that happened 30, 40+ years ago!  She hasn't spoken to her youngest sister (who is 63) since the mid/late 1980s.
 
She never married, never even had a romantic relationship and never had any close friends - except one co-worker she has kept in touch with.

She lived with their parents until both parents died. She was the only caregiver (she always refused to hire home health aides, a cleaner - claiming she could do it better). 
She complained that her siblings never offered any help with eldercare, but on the other hand she pushed her siblings away on the occasions that they did offer assistance.

Now, at age 70, she feels depressed, miserable and lonely. She never says anything nice about anyone, be it her siblings, acquaintances or neighbors. The whole world seems bad to her. She can talk for more than 1 hour non-stop about how unlucky she is and about all the misfortunes in her life. She sounds like everyone owes her an apology for whatever real or perceived hurt they caused.
It's draining.
Some people in the neighborhood actively avoid meeting her in the street. Is is any wonder?
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