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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What "stories" did I change in this thread? None.

I have no friends or family in my city where I currently live. That's the truth. I do have friends and family in my hometown. These are people I went to grade school, high school, and college with. Are they "friends" where I can just call them up and hang out with them? Not really.

Some of you posting on here are so vested in making me, as the OP, out to be "wrong." What if neither I nor my sister are actually wrong? It doesn't help the fact that I reach out to her, she refuses to speak. LoL. I apologize, she doesn't accept. Did I murder someone? Was I an addict for years in recovery, who stole from my family and who doesn't remember events? No. Is there an actual record of how I was there for both my parents when they needed me? Yes. Was I there for my sister at her major life events? Yes.

NP. Hi OP, I have no reason to doubt your version of events.
I know someone who is similar.

She is 70 years old and she has 3 siblings - 2 sisters, 1 brother. She bears grudges about things that happened 30, 40+ years ago! She hasn't spoken to her youngest sister (who is 63) since the mid/late 1980s.

She never married, never even had a romantic relationship and never had any close friends - except one co-worker she has kept in touch with.

She lived with their parents until both parents died. She was the only caregiver (she always refused to hire home health aides, a cleaner - claiming she could do it better).
She complained that her siblings never offered any help with eldercare, but on the other hand she pushed her siblings away on the occasions that they did offer assistance.

Now, at age 70, she feels depressed, miserable and lonely. She never says anything nice about anyone, be it her siblings, acquaintances or neighbors. The whole world seems bad to her. She can talk for more than 1 hour non-stop about how unlucky she is and about all the misfortunes in her life. She sounds like everyone owes her an apology for whatever real or perceived hurt they caused.
It's draining.
Some people in the neighborhood actively avoid meeting her in the street. Is is any wonder?

Are you trying to paint a picture of me? I didn't live at home with my parents. I've had romantic relationships. So, this isn't me.

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Anonymous wrote:What "stories" did I change in this thread? None.

I have no friends or family in my city where I currently live. That's the truth. I do have friends and family in my hometown. These are people I went to grade school, high school, and college with. Are they "friends" where I can just call them up and hang out with them? Not really.

Some of you posting on here are so vested in making me, as the OP, out to be "wrong." What if neither I nor my sister are actually wrong? It doesn't help the fact that I reach out to her, she refuses to speak. LoL. I apologize, she doesn't accept. Did I murder someone? Was I an addict for years in recovery, who stole from my family and who doesn't remember events? No. Is there an actual record of how I was there for both my parents when they needed me? Yes. Was I there for my sister at her major life events? Yes.

NP. Hi OP, I have no reason to doubt your version of events.
I know someone who is similar.

She is 70 years old and she has 3 siblings - 2 sisters, 1 brother. She bears grudges about things that happened 30, 40+ years ago! She hasn't spoken to her youngest sister (who is 63) since the mid/late 1980s.

She never married, never even had a romantic relationship and never had any close friends - except one co-worker she has kept in touch with.

She lived with their parents until both parents died. She was the only caregiver (she always refused to hire home health aides, a cleaner - claiming she could do it better).
She complained that her siblings never offered any help with eldercare, but on the other hand she pushed her siblings away on the occasions that they did offer assistance.

Now, at age 70, she feels depressed, miserable and lonely. She never says anything nice about anyone, be it her siblings, acquaintances or neighbors. The whole world seems bad to her. She can talk for more than 1 hour non-stop about how unlucky she is and about all the misfortunes in her life. She sounds like everyone owes her an apology for whatever real or perceived hurt they caused.
It's draining.
Some people in the neighborhood actively avoid meeting her in the street. Is is any wonder?

Anonymous wrote:What "stories" did I change in this thread? None.

I have no friends or family in my city where I currently live. That's the truth. I do have friends and family in my hometown. These are people I went to grade school, high school, and college with. Are they "friends" where I can just call them up and hang out with them? Not really.

Some of you posting on here are so vested in making me, as the OP, out to be "wrong." What if neither I nor my sister are actually wrong? It doesn't help the fact that I reach out to her, she refuses to speak. LoL. I apologize, she doesn't accept. Did I murder someone? Was I an addict for years in recovery, who stole from my family and who doesn't remember events? No. Is there an actual record of how I was there for both my parents when they needed me? Yes. Was I there for my sister at her major life events? Yes.

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Anonymous wrote:For people saying not to contact my sister when I'm in town, I don't think that was the right thing to do, either. If I'm in town, and I'm at a huge gathering where other mutual family and friends will see me, then my sister would have reason to be upset, that I didn't contact her.

It's not your sister's fault you have no other friends. Work on you first instead of laying all your problems at her feet. The common denominator in you lack of family, friends, other women in your life is you.

Anonymous wrote:For people saying not to contact my sister when I'm in town, I don't think that was the right thing to do, either. If I'm in town, and I'm at a huge gathering where other mutual family and friends will see me, then my sister would have reason to be upset, that I didn't contact her.

Anonymous wrote:What "stories" did I change in this thread? None.

I have no friends or family in my city where I currently live. That's the truth. I do have friends and family in my hometown. These are people I went to grade school, high school, and college with. Are they "friends" where I can just call them up and hang out with them? Not really.

Some of you posting on here are so vested in making me, as the OP, out to be "wrong." What if neither I nor my sister are actually wrong? It doesn't help the fact that I reach out to her, she refuses to speak. LoL. I apologize, she doesn't accept. Did I murder someone? Was I an addict for years in recovery, who stole from my family and who doesn't remember events? No. Is there an actual record of how I was there for both my parents when they needed me? Yes. Was I there for my sister at her major life events? Yes.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread has gone off the rails.

Well it’s certainty not providing the chorus of validation that OP was hoping for.

I don't need validation from random strangers posting on an internet.

I also most likely won't go to therapy. I went to a grief counselor when my mother died.

There were a few people who actually read my post, and they provided helpful insight and feedback.

Until this post and discussion, I really hadn't thought much about how my sister was born with a disability and wore the corrective leg braces and used crutches. There's a photo of me as a baby, with my parents, and my sister is sitting there with this look of total despair on her face. Her legs are fine at this point, but my parents probably thought that a four year age difference between us would be enough for her to be able to adjust to having a younger sibling, after being the first grand child in the family.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread has gone off the rails.

Well it’s certainty not providing the chorus of validation that OP was hoping for.

I don't need validation from random strangers posting on an internet.

I also most likely won't go to therapy. I went to a grief counselor when my mother died.

There were a few people who actually read my post, and they provided helpful insight and feedback.

Until this post and discussion, I really hadn't thought much about how my sister was born with a disability and wore the corrective leg braces and used crutches. There's a photo of me as a baby, with my parents, and my sister is sitting there with this look of total despair on her face. Her legs are fine at this point, but my parents probably thought that a four year age difference between us would be enough for her to be able to adjust to having a younger sibling, after being the first grand child in the family.

OP ignore these haters. I also have an older sister who never got over the narcissistic injury of being forced to have siblings and still hates me for being born. She seriously blames everything bad that happened in her life on that event and has taken it out on me in adulthood.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread has gone off the rails.

Well it’s certainty not providing the chorus of validation that OP was hoping for.

I don't need validation from random strangers posting on an internet.

I also most likely won't go to therapy. I went to a grief counselor when my mother died.

There were a few people who actually read my post, and they provided helpful insight and feedback.

Until this post and discussion, I really hadn't thought much about how my sister was born with a disability and wore the corrective leg braces and used crutches. There's a photo of me as a baby, with my parents, and my sister is sitting there with this look of total despair on her face. Her legs are fine at this point, but my parents probably thought that a four year age difference between us would be enough for her to be able to adjust to having a younger sibling, after being the first grand child in the family.

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I'm very susceptible to being bullied by other women in the workplace. I have no women friends in my life.

Yea. You’re the problem here. Can’t imagine the truths your sister would say if she was posting here.

I'm very susceptible to being bullied by other women in the workplace. I have no women friends in my life.

Anonymous wrote:Nobody cuts off a close family member without good reason. Nobody.

When you hurt people, don't expect to get away with it indefinitely.

Your first paragraph is not a true statement. People cut off family members All the time for no particular reasons. We are born into a family. We don’t have to like all the family members. We can choose to leave the family or certain member in the family, and vice-versa. We can have reasons for our decisions or nine at all.