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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread has gone off the rails.[/quote]

Well it’s certainty not providing the chorus of validation that OP was hoping for. [/quote]

I don't need validation from random strangers posting on an internet.

I also most likely won't go to therapy. I went to a grief counselor when my mother died.

There were a few people who actually read my post, and they provided helpful insight and feedback.

Until this post and discussion, I really hadn't thought much about how my sister was born with a disability and wore the corrective leg braces and used crutches. There's a photo of me as a baby, with my parents, and my sister is sitting there with this look of total despair on her face. Her legs are fine at this point, but my parents probably thought that a four year age difference between us would be enough for her to be able to adjust to having a younger sibling, after being the first grand child in the family. [/quote]

OP, I'm hoping you're not a troll and I'm going to try to say this as nicely as I can.

A single picture of your sister with "total despair on her face" proves nothing about anything. Absolutely nothing. There are so many other possible reasons for a toddler's despair, for example your parents had just told her she couldn't have a second piece of cake or a pony.

Also, speculating about your parents' reasons for the four-year-age gap is just beyond.

1-2 posters are pushing a narrative that your older sister couldn't stand to be dethroned. You seem to like this because it absolves you from all responsibility.

We could all speculate, too: younger children are often spoiled and attention-seeking, was that you? Or not?

You really need to see a real therapist. The grief counselor doesn't count. Your resistance to this is only understandable in the context of seeking validation from 1-2 posters and ignoring everybody else who points out your own bad behavior (talking to your BIL about your sister behind her back, changing stories even within this thread, and so on). [/quote]

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