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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why do you need good friends at this age anyway? Don't you have them from high school, college etc? Between work and volunteering and hobbies and kids I must talk to 50 people a day and they are all friends of different levels of closeness. We live in a very populated area. It isn't too hard. I think you might just be expecting too much from others.[/quote]

Good for you. You're not OP. What a jerk response.[/quote]

I didn't mean it jerky. I'm not that outgoing and it just seems like people are amazingly friendly that I meet and I always feel bad I don't have more time for them. I meet people running, at the baseball park, playground, PTA. Most people with kids don't have time for many really close friends and with kids your life is an open book related to kids or closed off on personal matters you only discuss with your spouse. Moms are close with people for the time being while they are doing that activity. I would talk to one mom at the bus and then when the kids went off to different middle schools I rarely saw her. We are still friends though. Just not close ones. I just expect that most friends in my adult life will be like this. We will enjoy each other's company while we do things together. We are all capable of being friendly, sharing stories, and making plans to do things together. They aren't helping me out though in a financial crisis or anything like this though. They expect me to be an adult and make my own decisions.[/quote]

The people I know with lots of friends despite young kids grew up around here, went to college relatively near by and then came back. So they are still in touch with people from HS and college and they have a years long friendship to build off before things got crazy with kids. I am no longer in touch with anyone from high school, and have friends from college and graduate school but the closest one is around the beltway from me and many are a plane ride away. So yep we might chat on the phone semi regularly but I’d love more in person friends too.

My work went fully remote during the pandemic and I HATE it. I have considered leaving to find something in person when my kids are slightly older. After multiple hours of zoom I struggle to talk on the phone FaceTime as much as I used to. And I absolutely loathe virtual happy hours and team building events, the actual worst.[/quote]

We get lots of military families and overseas families on 2-3 year stays and they have good friends after 6 months if they are upbeat, non political, volunteer and exercise with other moms. One of them recently became pta president after 2 years. They came from Australia. They didn't know anyone here. [/quote]

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