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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As the friend of several families with three children, I'd say don't do it.  It will be an 8-9 year gap between the oldest & youngest making it virtually impossible to find activities that work well for everyone.   For example, (kids are 12, 10, 5) can't even all go to the same movie.  They generally spend the weekends split up, one parent with older kids, one with the younger. [/quote]

That's a pretty limiting view of family life. My two kids are 6 years apart. Are there challenges for us as parents? Yes, but probably no more than if they were 2 years apart (which always struck me as very difficult, at least early on). Will it matter when they're adults? No! My siblings are 3, 7, and 10 years older than I am. As adults, I'm closest to the 2 oldest ones. As children, we had many all-family experiences and many split-into-2-groups experiences. I also loved when my older siblings babysat for us. Think outside the 2-kids-2-years-apart box and do what sounds best for your family, OP.

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I think there are a lot of DCUM parents of 1 or 2 who subconsciously envy families with 3 children. Whenever someone posts about wanting a third, there are a bunch of naysayers who don’t themselves have 3.[/quote]

Huh? Disconnect there. So -- parents of 1 or 2 "envy" those with 3, yet come along to "naysay" the idea of a third when someone asks about it? That's what you're saying. Do you think that the supposedly envious parents of 1-2 are both wishing they had a third, and at the same time thinking they should dissuade others from having a third, because...What? They don't want [i]anyone[/i] to have a third if [i]they[/i] don't themselves?

I guarantee, no one is giving the question THAT much thought. And no one with 1-2 is that envious of your having three kids.

More likely those of us with 1 or 2 see how frazzled many (not all, but many) parents with 3 or more are--unless, of course, they are like the PP earlier who has private schools, a "nanny/house cleaner" and super flexible, high-paying jobs. No frazzling there, naturally! [/quote]
No, there are many mothers of 1 or 2 children who subconsciously wished for another, but couldn’t for whatever reason (even a pragmatic, logical one). They tell others how expensive, impractical, challenging, unfair-to-the-siblings, you’re-too-old, etc. the wish for a third as a way to dissuade others from getting something beautiful and precious. It’s not dissimilar to how women tell their friend with luscious hair to get an edgy pixie cut, or who don’t want their slightly chubby sister get an rx for Ozempic.[/quote]

This is spot on[/quote]

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