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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The doctors note was just the straw that broke the camel’s back.[/quote]

This, plus household employees are generally super sensitive about things like strict rules, average pay, lack of autonomy. They are generally looking for the least amount of work for the greatest amount of money, as well as for the families that give them very broad autonomy and don’t micromanage.
They know someone who appreciates them and treats them with general respect and trust.

I know because my neighbor works in caregiving, and she has a ton of offers but it is very hard to make her stick to one. If her charge is difficult or annoying, she quits. If the relatives are cheap, she quits.
If extra duties are piled up on her without extra pay - she quits. 
She has one stable job where she is a live in, rules the roost, the daughter of the woman pays her a decent salary and a decent amount of food money, never really visits, her charge is immobile and has a cheerful personality etc. 
Its a skill to be able to retain a low pay employee with a good choice of other positions [/quote]

Ooof, yes, this is why we ended up tolerating a great deal of lying/fake sick days from our nanny.  I was MOSTLY confident in her ability to care for our child, but never totally happy with it. I guess I figured it was better that her flaws be up front, and I knew she really did like my kid. [/quote]

I don't get why parents somehow believe that nannies and childcare providers are somehow like Mary Poppins are are not human. Most humans call in sick and use their allotted sick days. Sick might be I'm hung over, could be a mental health day, could be strep throat. This is the way of the world. If you want someone to never need a personal day, never get sick, and be available to you at all times, no matter what, you are looking for someone called a slave. Because the only way to get anything resembling that otherwise, is to pay far more than market rate. Unless you are doing that, everyone needs to accept that folks are going to phone it in sometimes. [/quote]

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