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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband and I make a point to say "Thanks for making dinner. Thanks for doing the dishes. etc" to each other.  When our kids were little, we would prompt them to do the same by saying "What do you want to say thank you for?". Sometimes, they wouldn't say anything but other times, they would get really specific and it was cute. ("Thanks for the ketchup! Teehee").

Now that they are older- 7 and 10- they independently say things like "thanks for dinner, mom". or "thanks for getting the kind of bread that I like.". It really warms my heart and makes me feel proud of them.

I have a friend who thinks its crazy to say thank you to a parent for fulfilling a basic need like feeding you dinner. But I see it has gentle practice of life skills that will get you far in adulthood. No consequence for not saying anything but lots of positive reinforcement if they do. :)[/quote]

My teenage daughter regularly thanks me for stuff I do, in particular if she knows I have a busy day already, or if it’s something above and beyond the basic needs. She’s not a hugger or an I-love-you kind of kid, but I know she sees and appreciates what I do for her. And I’m a lot more likely to go out of my way for her because I know she’ll appreciate it, and she’ll reciprocate by helping out a bit more without being asked when I’m swamped or not feeling well.

And I’m 100% positive she’s like this because her dad and I are appreciative of each other’s efforts, and we’ve always made it a point to say so in front of her. Kids need to see it modeled over and over again, even if adults don’t necessarily need constant public repetition of something that’s well-understood privately. [/quote]

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